A Muslim Household Etiquettes of permission and entrance The Etiquettes of gatherings Class 5

and reliable allah - allah wa sallim wa barik ala nabina muhammad wa ala adi roso heavy of antibiotics and eli Medina was seldom at the Sleeman kathira i'ma bod or praise due to Allah we praise him the way he deserves to be praised we asked lot to exalt the mention grant peace and send the salutations and blessings upon the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu wasallam tonight's session is rather an interesting one for so many reasons one of which is that it is hardly ever addressed or discussed it is topic that is hardly ever addressed or discussed and from my experience Muslims have lot of misconceptions misunderstandings want to use the word ignorant but yeah ignorance let me just say the word ignorant they are very ignorant about some of these etiquettes that are related to the matters of estate van seeking permission when you're visiting in someone's home or when you enter in someone's home or when you're entering room and then also the etiquettes of modulus and gatherings when you gathered with people when you sit in with people how are you supposed to conduct yourself how are you supposed to behave how you supposed to be in other words this is the topic that would like to discuss and want your full attention charlotta ala because it's little intricate and you you the narrations are very straightforward and don't want you to lose track of the sequence all right so before start discussing them would like to reiterate the beauty of Islam as you know I'm crazy in so many ways and I'm not saying crazy in the negative sense I'm crazy in good way believe and one of my one of my materializations of my craziness is usually start like liking some something and then become somewhat obsessed with it and then spend lot of time looking into it researching it studying it listening to it so in recent times I've been watching lot of debates between Muslims and atheists there came time when was listening to debate with the Muslims Christians and then Christians and atheists which found to be very interesting because there are two falsehoods trying to debate with one another you know and Christian being less of falsehood than atheism but it's still not substantial enough to have an atheist leave atheism and move to Christianity cuz you just moving from one dogma to another dogma but recently I've been listening to Muslims and there aren't that many that are qualified and don't want to mention names but listen into Muslim debating with atheists and it just gives me that we and you have to be very careful the first this is called disclaimer would like to give is that if this is not your field if you're not involved in Dawa do not listen to these debates because unfortunately people Muslims that debate on these matters have no choice but to involve themselves in elbowed kalam which is the knowledge or science of philosophy and the science of talking and accepting certain principles policies logic accepting judean judean Christian Judeo Christian different Greek philosophies lot of things have to be in order to debate you have to kind of agree with them on them so you may debate at their level but in the process you end up not you end up going against so many Islamic teachings so many fundamental teachings in Islam so please be careful I'm saying this just so can bring to your attention the point and the fact that Islam remains to be the only solution to all of the problems of mankind and with all the research of that in my humble humble short life and Mohammed research haven't come across any ideology or religion or philosophy that is so comprehensive and so particular and so detailed as to tell you how to conduct yourself in every situation like Islam and by large grace and mercy everything makes sense and the only people that that have problem with slap making sense are people that are senseless are people that themselves lack common sense and that's why they have problem with certain teachings of Islam if you don't have this problem then in your filter sound then everything is beautiful and so this is reality when we discuss watch right now what we what we discuss the issue of how we supposed to conduct yourself when you visit people and so on and so forth when you sit with people you will be baffled by the amount of instructions and guidance we receive from our beloved Prophet Muhammad SAW Allah who are you send them who was the best example for anybody who wanted to worship Allah the way Allah should be worshipped the prophets Allah Allah Allah Selim was our example of how Allah should be worshipped that is his role that he was sent with if you wanna worship Allah you don't innovate and you don't use the Prophet as an intermediary rather you worship Allah according to the way of the Prophet Muhammad Sal Allahu alayhi wa send them the first thing we discussed about the etiquette which is an abandoned Sunnah think many Muslims are not even aware of it and that is the Teemu selänne cut blood is the event that you should first begin with giving Salam salutations before you actually seek permission hadith ana Raja Lomond Benny Armour and hosted an ala nadya salallahu alayhi wa sallam ahora fee paid called Alec Carlin abuse la la vara wa salamu Hadi me Oprah Dara had fairly will estate an FAQ Allah who called assalamu alaykum at one for Samia as-salam-o-alaikum at whole Edina wouldn't be--' you sallallahu alayhi wa sallam - buddha would wash metro hadith also heat so have any Rahim holla this man they rated to us letter the command from any harm came to enter upon the prophet saw herself while he was in the house so the man said sure enter the profits of seller told his servant go out and teach him how to seek permission and say to him say as-salaam alaikum should come in the man before the servant even told him hurt already he heard the prophet Salih Saleh so he said assalamu alaikum peace be upon you at whom should enter so the prophet sallallaahu said I'm permitted him to enter now in today's context if you are able to communicate with the person upon whom you are going to enter then you should actually begin with the Salam before you ask whether you can come in or not and believe Allah in my humble opinion haven't come across that many people that practice this abandon Sunnah of the Prophet SAW Allah recently so let us inshaallah be among the pioneers and reviving sunnah that has been left and abandoned by the muslims who asked the last order to make us among the carriers of the barrier of the sunnah al hamdulillah secondly that you should seek permission three times otherwise you should return and the hadith in Bukhari Muslim the prophet sallallaahu Salaam Chi even hadouken xerath and felon you event la Valliere if what have you seeks permission three times and he is not granted permission then let him return now marry crime of allah says in commenting he said seek you mission three times is the best and prefer that no one adds to that unless you believe that you were not hurt in which case if there's no harm if you actually do it more than three times so if you believe that the people upon whom you're seeking the people you whom you seek and permission from to enter did not hear you especially in modern day when you have you know doors and you knock on the door you ring on the bell and the people are inside maybe the inside the room they can't hear you if you believe they haven't heard you of course to understand this meaning you ring on the bell or you knock three times so in the context of modern day housing you not either three times and you you make you give the etiquette is that you have space between them as to not to make the people panic or scare the people in the house so you give an interval at time between each ring of the bell or each knock on the door if you believe that the people hurt you and you've asked for three times and no one replied that you should leave thirty daddy Edmisten naphtha and this is so so common this is so so common bismillah I'm Joe Biron brother-in-law and Makar ate tuna BSL allahu alayhi wasallam feed alien canada be further octal Bab Amanda faculty Anna fagala Anna Anna Anna who carry haha with the Ali hadith in Bukhari and Muslim from jabbered he said came to the prophet sallallaahu Selim due to money that my dad owed him perhaps he came to pay him back so knocked the door the process have said who is it he said said me and Rosalyn kept repeating me me as if he hated that and to be frank with you this is one of the funniest things in the world because the person on the other side of the door is assumed that either his voice is so unique that the people know who it is or that the people are able to see him or that he is so special and famous that when he says me then the people are gonna be like are you Maya Sheriff eonni yeah any logic entails that you mention your name and this reminds me of the lot of people that communicated me on on social platform think at the other day we had an online session and someone's account was called open open and then he writes he says brother do you remember meeting me in Dubai yeah me don't remember every meeting someone's name was open open and if you just want open open and you ask me this question Yanni do you think I'm gonna or I've had brothers within with random number yeah anonymous number that they know what haven't saved they got my number from someone then the first person who said brother do you remember me said okay how am gonna remember you by the special font that you type with your share the money and you haven't even said who you are how in the world am going to remember you so don't know what's going on in the perception that people have that they're popular well-known or just kids they utter confusion regardless it's not okay for you to not gonna go and say me if you name is Ahmed you said I've met behemoth Abdullah be if you name is George hope your name is not George you gotta say your name so from the etiquettes of seeking permission is that you mention your name and don't think you're so special by just merely saying me because everybody is me when they are knocking on the door everybody could be me and if this doesn't really give you lot of information it's like someone asks you who are you you say am me masha'allah them how does that help me in enrolling you in this College well don't know you gotta figure it out but I'm telling you that's me for three fifthly the Sharia monography Betty Radian and if they're very important and happy who write return of the alone one in the BU solo lower yourself called magnet Allah he beta comedy his name-o know off of Kauai ena Fela di tella who wanna piss laws and this was narrated by NSA and many said it is so hey according to the condition of the Imam Muslim in the sahara jogger hadith number six zero four six and the reason why I'm giving you the reference because some of you might be some of you it's okay some of you might be confused or shocked at the hadith the hadith says whoever looks into someone's home without their permission then poke his eye out and there will be no deer there'll be no blood money no payment no retribution and no well actus us and no retribution yanny you know how we have if you harm someone that he can harm you back or that you have to pay them some equivalent money equivalent for the horn and the case of someone who licks looks into the homes or the private properties and the private homes or the private anything of people you have the permission and islam to poke his eye out and you have nothing to pay back you have no guilt against you whatsoever not in the dunya nor in the after and the scholars say this applies to anything so if somebody is trying to use the people to to you know sneak on you or to check you out or to watch you go ahead and take sigh out if someone's trying to you know look into any personal private matter viewers so it's very serious issue brothers assistants it's very serious issue and lot of us are very nosey nosey and negligent so when they walk around they go someone's up and and it's very challenging know for example where used to live whenever we go down you know to the message it we're going from the third floor or second floor or whatever that was and on the way down subhanAllah the neighbors happen to be opening you know their doors open he's also going to the Masjid or whatever the case may be yeah actually you have to lower your gaze and used to have DiNapoli's grace make an effort and teach my children don't look children are curious but his wife could be in there you know not wearing job obviously in our own house you could see something that is not rightfully yours and so it's it's from the etiquettes of looking that you don't look in this regard otherwise you're taking chance of your eye going bye-bye and you can't get it back next is that if you're like we said as Allah says in the Quran right when Kenan Cooper g4g who asked Anika mala be my tamo-guna Adi if an acceptor you go back go back it is pure for you and Allah really knows what you're doing that the important thing is that if you go to someone's home the point that we want to highlight and they don't allow you in don't have grudge in your heart against them do not have grudge in your heart against them understand that as Allah said daddy can come home is Callicoon it is pure for you it is better for you that you do not enter Allah Alan what do is them is that you are not allowed but don't have any hardship or any unease any unease in your heart regarding that rejection another interesting etiquette regarding visiting someone is on your way out if you want to leave an ebony ramelteon hoo miqo'te color so like some of our excellent either had to come knock off jealous and oval area man happiest dinner and the hadith was also authenticated by chef and been in have whole lot and the sincere Asahi if one of you visits his brother and he is sitting there he should not leave and he doesn't get up until he seeks his permission and that is because if you suddenly decide to leave and you you know help yourself to the door and on the way to the door you might enter upon his family or his wife or his daughters or whatever the case may be and see things that you're not allowed to see so logically if you visit someone you do not just you know help yourself and leave you have to seek permission from the person that you want to leave so that he can clear the way for you make sure that everybody is you know hiding or covered up and whatever the case may be and then you know smilla you grab yourself and leave and so these are important again today well today where are the visitations with the coronavirus think the last time you visited and someone was yourself when he went from one room to another room and that's as good as getting for most of us right now but back then and Shana in the future if we ever go back to normal life when it comes to visitation lot of people don't observe these etiquettes and you see people are negligent about them and this these are for the people that that actually care now don't ask about what I've discussed in the past when it comes to family members where everything goes the brother-in-law mashallah goes into the kitchen while though while his brother's wife is cooking and he wants to try or check on the condition of the cooking for the if thought in Ramadan and she's wearing her house clothes and because yeah he every time we discussed this yeah brother it's the brother-in-law but sister brother-in-law it's my brother who how can he what would he ever look at my wife yes yes they would look at your wife and her mother also and her daughter that's human tendency and the Shaitaan is ever was spitting to people this is something that you have to manage in control do you know that the statistics statistic give you scary numbers but in terms of numbers everything goes in this world everything that you think is unimaginable and what happened happens happened happens and will continue to happen as long as people don't observe the deed of Allah as long as we sideline the Quran and Sunnah and we let our culture's govern decide what we do we will forever be in trouble you will not have peace and you'll be surprised 10-15 years later to find out that your own daughter had been exposed to things that you never imagined then everybody was Shh about it because they don't want to expose and they don't want to ruin the reputation of houla and allanon and so on and so forth they are messiah there are calamities happening behind closed doors because of this negligence she's my cousin she's my buzzing she's spiritual Madonna chef Sparrow sent from book halassi Ani what is Haddad is Haddad or his harem harem what is right is right what is wrong is wrong to leave it at that do not transgress and violate those rules and regulations lest it backfires and explodes in our face and this is what the OMA lacks the own Malik's adherence to the Sunnah the Sahaba America they also have our the exact opposite of what we are today they were keen on everything that the Prophet Sawa's celeb did and we are keen on everything that the culture dictates and we use it to position I'm not generalizing not everybody obviously not everybody but is it the majority SS the majority does it explain why we are considered backwards in front of many people yes it does if we had adhered to Islam with dignity that is nothing to be ashamed of Allah what lie there is nothing shameful in our deal there is nothing that we are scared to stand in front of the whole world and tell them straight up here islam teaches this and teaches that in spite of them not liking it in spite of them having issues with it we don't care we should not care because what we have no one has understand yeah Muslims understand what I'm saying what we have wallahi no one has they will they dream about it the Jews the Jews they lost their mind they were they were baffled because of the ayah that Allah Azza WA JAL revealed so much so that they memorized all of the events of this this this ayah that was revealed when Allah revealed Leo Aquila to lockup Dinoco turn to Allah community Baldy to recover Islam Adina this day have completed your religion for you and completed my favor upon you and am pleased the same as religion for you they said they said if this area was revealed upon smash tourney hood liked us at night the outcome occurred we would have taken this as as day of celebration we would celebrate receiving an ayah from Allah that our religion is perfect and that allah has pleased with us due to that they didn't they were not they were unfulfilled because Allah knew that the final prophet would be the prophet mohammed salah salem we muslims got that we got that privilege he are the one who received it sitting on our couches so what do you want this is what you have and we're not our Saffiano Italian wear the creatures of Allah if the people don't like it so what you have problem with the IT service that no problem you will stand before along the day of judgment you will resolve it there you have you have all the all the tools you need to speak before Allah yoga qiyamah if you will be allowed to speak we it's not our problem as Muslims so that we wind up modifying our religion to please others which is the disease of the West the Western modernized version of Islam continue to change and modify change and modify remove add you know alter twist janna keep playing with it how about now what do you buy or what do you like it now realize this is better would you like it bigger would you like it smaller would you like it fairer would you like it siddur how would you like Islam no problem we will change it to make you happy Allah says well enter behind can you hold on Assad hate that that they behave in the Tom the Jews and Christians will never be peace with you until you follow their religion and here we are trying to change our religion to make them happy they were not be happy so tell them Islam as it is in all sincerity in all kindness and all humbleness tell them Islam as it is if they don't like it no problem no problem Fuhrman Shia or could it have come and Rob become financial value lumen woman chef Elliott for say this is the truth from your Lord whosoever wills can't believe whosoever wills Candace believe Allah give us free will no problemo you don't like it no problem don't accept it on your multi Amma don't complain that's it so we need to speak to the etiquettes among the important etiquettes is that of entering upon the children and the maids or whoever lives in the house and turning upon the others in their rooms the ayahs in arabic it's long I'm gonna skip to the English in surah 2 note have 58 you should know it Allah says you have believed let those whom your right hands possess which we had back then we don't have today and those who have not yet reached puberty among you ask permission of you before entering at 3 times Allah mentioned three times where people have to seek people in the house except children who have not each puberty they are exempt because they don't know any better other than that three times they have to and they have to seek permission before they enter before the dawn prayer before the dawn prayer men company selected fashion and when you put aside your clothing for rest at noon the Thai Luna that some people have at noontime one day you know because and the type of fashion this is the time that you change from your sleeping clothes perhaps your they clothes what are you gonna wear for the rest of the day if you're among those who wake up version is they remain up and then know what time is when you take off your clothes to take nap and then after the night prayer after salat Elisha these are three times of privacy for you meaning anybody who wants to enter upon let's say husband and wife or husband on his own or wife on her own about appearance in the house then you may not enter without seeking permission as per the etiquettes that we mentioned previously there is no play there is no blame upon you nor upon them beyond these periods for they continually circulate among you some of you among others thus does Allah make clear to you the verses and Allah is all-knowing all-wise so these are the three times and you must seek permission and those three times even the children I'm sorry must seek permission made mistake let me correct myself in those three times even the children must seek permission and other times then the children may enter freely upon them because they are among the tawa feenin accomplished like the cats but otherwise even sure it must be taught how do you see permission for obvious reasons because you don't want the child is to enter and see what he does not want to see and if he sees he will never be able to unsee and if he sees you will never be able to erase and he might be traumatized for the rest of his life and then you become guilty now what happens if you take sip of coffee what happens that you continue when you're done what happens if you were praying and then someone sought permission to enter do we have teachings of Islam from Islam about this of course we do did you not know Abu Hurairah may Allah be pleased with him said Salih salallahu alayhi wa sallam he thus to Dina have brought Julie whoa who are you suddenly friend now forever would this be way that's - Dina Holly Remer achiever here - Sully is not asleep and this hadith was what was collected by by hockey and it was authenticated by shuttle believe Allah if man is if man if permission is sought upon man to enter ye spraying then he gives permission by sayings to pan Allah he raises his voice by saying Subhan Allah and if permission is sought upon woman while she's praying then she claps I'm gonna ruin the mic okay claps and then once again we have taught before that women in their Salah in spite of the fact that their voice is not our from the etiquettes of islam is that she does speak loudly in her solo and she does not correct the Imam and in this case she doesn't say super amoled loud voice rather the sunnah for her is to clap so you can permit someone to enter upon you even if you are involved in an act of worship with allah spirit allah and that shows you the consideration that islam has towards people because if if islam did not care about the feelings of others and we will see other narrations to the suspect then you can let the person hang outside let them wait for as long as it takes until you finish the salah if there's an ability for you to reconcile between them and bring the person in Wadi pray and shallow to Ana no problem by you now that we've discussed the etiquette of seeking permission and Antony we're going to assume right now that we are collected and gathered together so what are the etiquette of gathering the first and the most fundamental of all is the remembrance of Allah Japan attack Abdullah dinamic carcass la la laa where he was Alabaman comon jealous who imagine he said let me ask Allah Hafiz illa Allah has returned in la coneja stratten glioma piaba camera the pen hadith think lost some of the words here the prophet sallallaahu said have said no group of people sit together in gathering in which they do not remember Allah accept that this gathering will be source of regret for them on the Day of Resurrection on the Day of Resurrection so and it's very unlikely for group of Muslims to sit down without mentioning Allah al hamdulillah Yani from the time since that want to refer to la allakum assalaam color Hayakawa collage list or depending on your country you're gonna use your language you've already mentioned Allah gave havoc how you do it and humbly I'm doing fine and that's something we should teach our children to begin by saying and yeah need to learn how to say it hammed it up not fine fine as tissue okay and ham did Allah I'm fine Yanni but let them learn how to remember Allah compliance shocker table eatin taco and your Lord has proclaimed if you show thankfulness would increase you you need to train program your mind and the children to be thankful to allah azzawajal always remind your kids everything you have including your parents and the home that you live in and whatever game consoles you may have and what are the books you have and whatever clothes you have and whatever the toys you have and what everything you have is from allah there are people out there that don't have anything Allah Azza WA JAL favored us over so many of his creation with his wisdom subhana Allah and it doesn't mean that those who are deprived are in better condition than we are so Pamela they might not they may not have the dunya and have the Acura that's why it's last business it's las business or this creation it's las hickman with his creation but our job is to be content with whatever blessings we have it was narrated in Timothy and eben measure that the Prophet Muhammad said they we used to count in one gathering the profits of the loved one you said I'm saying over 100 times Rock believer - by Allah here in the can that the web or Rahim would the web enough for two different wordings my Lord forgive me and accept my repentance very you are the one who accepts the repentance the forgiving or another narration the merciful in one gathering they would count hundred times the Prophet SAW Allah or SLM say that what does that make me and you someone who already love for Allah who love for Allah would home at the condemned mean then paper Matassa Allah already forgave his future and previous sins he would say this 100 times in academe do we say it even once you answer another etiquette is and it's very important and Nehemia combat original min magician when an epimer Hanabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and neroon and you comma Raju Lubin merge DCEO edges Sophie after while can the first circle whatever sound very common practice in our culture is that person will get up man will get up will be asked to to leave and then another person will sit in his place it is not from the Sunnah that you make someone get up and then you sit in his place rather you should make space and room now this is different then when you want to honor someone by offering them your seat such as when the Prophet subtle Allah will you send them his when his daughter Fatima would enter upon him he Ali so said will make her sit in his place so that's different than when you want to honor someone by giving him your place and then someone entering saying was there might walk there move and then he sits in your place and you mean you think that who would do this believe it or not there are many people who do this and if were to compare this to I'll leave it for later I'll leave it for later because see lot of the things which we cannot apply in physical context we can apply in social media context we got when we speak about seeking permission until now I've said it million times actually made clip with Kadima on this so many years ago Spamalot or whatever it was ever watched by anyone the creating groups until now you find yourself every day almost every day in group that has like hundreds of people and all of them are dismembers two three four six seven eight and then some dude as you to group and when my experience 80% of the time it's not even the language speak and yeah yeah yeah if either put me in an English group or put me in an Arabic group Lana it's always some other foreign language somebody invites you without your permission into group and then you ask what's going on here and no one answers then you feel bad that you have to exit the group and you go through the hassle of exiting the group and the deal in the group and always wonder yeah see yeah he if you wanted to add people but Alcala feet out of out of out of manners you communicate with those individuals by one by one yes yes one by one you contact for that yeah Abu Musab I'm gonna make group about you know football or about asking Islamic questions would you mind not just be with anybody would you mind chuckle okay yeah go back heavy be or no have plenty of groups please forgive me brother what my don't have time so then you either add the person and then when he comes in he knows what he's getting into he's comfortable this you know because you see you entered the group and then the first thing you see is full and left the group full and have the group full of the group everybody's leaving because everybody came in in spite of them the way see it is like you were sitting at home someone comes in he blindfolds you kidnaps you takes you to his house and then suddenly he I'm full he removes the blindfold and then he has he is Fatah shy yeah Baba HP was at home and that you kidnap me bring me to your house and you forced me to eat cake and tea with you you could have at least called me said would you like to come to my house so the fact it to me this is the same exact thing you put me in group without my permission put in any Muslim group with that the permission is like napping from the home and forcing them to come to your house without alignment my sister came here chef should be welcome see you kiddo yeah it does not do on the native dialect even accepted novice leather bed that could do it fast like baton potala try back history to show back that they never thought of rebecca joy back inglese in one the family could an absolution the same way did lose you there good so want to make sure that you're alert because you probably right now he brain is working and what is he saying what is he saying so you're paying attention that she just in case you got diverted by something it actually never 64 have to pay another important going specifically to the Masjid I've already narrated that the prophet Salim said the time had to come man come on miss listen to Mirage ara alayhi our hua have to be and hadith was invaded by Muslim and now he has very decent commentary on it if person was sitting somewhere and he left his place he has more of right to return to it and now we said this is specific also in the position of the message it in the message whether you're sitting in Misawa the place of Salah or just when you're sitting in the message if you were sitting somewhere and you had to go to make wudu or in order to answer phone call and that does not deprive you of being able to go back to your spot you have more of right to go back to the spot which was yours this is now and so if you're in machine and you have to go you know you can go and come back to your spot you have the right and Islamically you have the right to if someone took you place saber Alcala fee was sitting here now of course logically speaking you should either notify someone next to you maybe put your piece of clothing append something that signifies that you were sitting there just so you can avoid confusion this however does not mean what many people do and Ramadan and how did we have to deal with those on yearly basis they would put their prayer rug from Assam in the machine and then the guy will not appear until two minutes before Tala we and the message it is them the message it is Jeff packed with people and the brother comes in my shallots of article like the King Yannick move everybody make way for me and then he goes right behind the Imam and he was sleeping it at home the whole time like chef and he will tell you and have to be heaven and my cabin lady no this is not this is different story you have to earn your place and the message it you can't just put rug and reserve place and have it for hours it is only allowed for something temporary such as you going out to make wudu you go out to answer phone call you're going out to sneeze you know drink water something of the stage very short and temporary trip another one of the etiquettes of the gatherings and it's also Abu Huraira and this is why you get to appreciate parental on the line who and may Allah Azza WA JAL curse those who criticize him among those who hate to Sahab of the processes and they criticize him so badly Abu Hurairah but look look how much information we learn about stamp from him he said God and also like solo solemn event had to kamila must be sinful you sell limb for embedded ahoo and yesterday's fellows this to my the kama Felicia lymph ELISA Tallulah be hawk terminal era hadith his intimacy and Buddha would the process upset if one of you arrives at machinist then let him give Salam and if he wants to sit then let him sit but if he gets up to leave then let him also gives lab because verily the first one is not more in is not more worthy or right than the last one yeah the first one is not superior to the last one just like you gave just like that that Salam in the beginning is something that is recommended as we know then so is the one at the end so it is Sunnah for you to say Salaam alaikum WA Rahmatullah when you enter and you say salaam wa rahmatullah also when you leave and lot of people replace that with ciao if they are entering upon people and if you want to say ciao fine but also say said America rahmatullah among the etiquettes is that you should sit wherever the gathering whatever the spot that is available to you is I'm Javanese Amarok couldn't have if their attendant nabi nabiyeen larsen I'm jealous hakuna how you do Yenta when we would visit the processor and we would sit wherever wherever the gathering ended so there's bunch of people and this is where the last one sitting you go and you sit over there you don't go put yourself in the middle and you go sit in front of someone as many people do and yeah Allah Allah want to cry want to cry want to cry from the Muslims yeah Muslims yeah brothers love you for the sake of Allah but what you do on Juma is Haram what we do on Juma is here Allah every Gemara we have the same disaster you'll be sitting in via Manila person comes efe in the middle of the hood but in the middle of the hood band he walks over 25 people going over their shoulders just against hadith exactly against the hadith and then he puts himself in place where we're at cockroach doesn't fit and he just sits and now everybody has to yea hash by eg my see what see it if you complete the tax of being late is that you sit in the back you cannot come and disturb the people and go over there next their necks and shoulders to grant yourself place in the front when you did not earn or deserve this place and this is one of the worst habits that we have what entitles one of us to her and harm so many Muslims one that when man did this during the time process Allah the prophet and the hubbub he stopped his hook banned he told them sit down is this you have harmed the people you have harmed the people it is prohibited for you to do this it is haram for you to do this you annoying all these people for your own satisfaction what level of selfishness is this you come you sit wherever there is an empty spot in the back where you belong because you came late when complete have the same application all of us have the same application you may not come and disturb the people in this manner today people have no consideration look at the other hadith from Angela Naaman also processing said lay hand in literature and you forget about 9/11 Nima similarly the human not is sit there and and blades yourself between two people unless you seek permission from them this is in the context that you never saw back to Jamaa you don't just come in and invite yourself between two people you have to seek permission matters yeah bill what do you mind that's what the heck the law says now well actually I'm speaking to him come sit to my right or comes it to my left no problem but first lot to do my brothers please share this share this when you come to slaughter Johan when you come to Jamaa in general german general but specifically on friday when the imam is given husba allah your ballot may Allah be pleased with you get the reward from Allah and sit where there is spot not in the front you may not go over any Muslim by crossing over him some of the scholar said if you see legitimate open spot in the front miraculously everybody just left it and you can go there without harming anyone Hayakawa if not no no no so be very careful among the etiquettes of the Machinists which is also forgotten and abandoned as well as known as kuffara to measure this and how important we actually nowadays muslims we need this in every single gathering and every single gathering because hardly do we hardly have gathering where we don't wind up saying things that don't talk and things that can be sinful backbiting mistakingly criticising mistakenly mocking someone mistake we might do something somehow some way that is erroneous and we are all subject to this mistake everybody's subject to these errors so how do you rectify them if you're sitting in gathering you follow the hadith of the Prophet said I'm from Abu Huraira man jealous of imagine is in fact for Rafi he lovato vittala table and Yacouba means DC he then he casts of Hanna long of hammock ashhadu Anna as the rocker to be like Allah who fear Allah who McKenna 'they must be much missing hedonic the processor had said if anyone of you sits in the gathering and he speaks lot lot of idle talk lot of mistakes lot of lot of expressions were made and then he says before he gets up from his from his seat so panic alarm up happening glory be to how perfect you are Allah and praise be to you bear witness that there is no deity worthy of worship except you seek your forgiveness and turn to you in repentance except that Allah will forgive what ever he said in that measures and ham did in that ham did it laughs and ham did left for this outlet because if we didn't have this outlet my brothers sisters will be in serious trouble now asked you for Allah sake let us all revive this abandon soon as one who usually do this at the end of lecture at the end of you know Islamic gathering of some sort and recitation of the Quran but actually this is due on lot of our social gatherings because that's what we actually have the most errors and mistakes so that has practice the Sunnah let us practice the Sunnah of making this drop before we get up from where we're sitting so that we may attain the forgiveness of Allah so that for any errors that we might have made during that particular gathering among the etiquettes of of the gatherings is that and this shows you the compassion of Islam which reminds me made the statement and think one of the toxin on this series said islam teaches such as such as person after the comedy said didn't know that Islam was thing or person think he said something or person yeah yeah need barik alaa figures an opportunity to apply to you who said that only person may have speech attributed to them who said in which language whether Arabic or English would necessitate that restricted that you can say that it has to be human being for you to say that thing teaches when you say our culture teaches such as such our our government teaches such such an the government is an entity anything of the sort it's lamb teaches meaning the revelation of the teachers of the Quran and Sunnah and you may attribute the verb or the quality of teaching to the religion because that's what the religion teaches it doesn't have to be man to say this man teaches so sometimes we get particular about things that we shouldn't get very particular about now if we have more awareness and broader information then we will be more you know considerate about some of these things where people usually get offended and they go on the attack when they could have probably been little bit more accommodating lacuna had and Abdullah Dumas rude and I've delayed Masaru drug dealer and we'll call Ana bu sallallahu alayhi wasallam either couldn't do ma Vilayet an edger or do Danny Doon and ever had the study - Hector Ana hadith is Marathi and Muslim and the reason why should and you're sinner because that lives and this might cause that person to be sad Manish had the the words mixed up here the meaning of the hadith and that is the important thing the processer have said if you are three then two people should not have private conversation among them in order not to make that third person sad now this also applies according to the scholars when it comes to language usage so if there are three people and two of them two of them speak Arabic and one of them does not and the other people and then but all of them speak English the two people speak in Arabic should not speak to each other and ignore the third person in their private language because the Shaitaan would might insinuate to him that they're saying something bad about him and he will make him sad so out of consideration you don't have these kind of whispering private conversations and you leave someone out in order not to mess with his brain and you also don't use same language when you can speak language that is understandable by everybody out of consideration of course there are exceptions to this rule it is not black and white but these are the etiquette of consideration that teaches you that Islam looks after the well-being the the mental well-being of people and that Islam one of the objectives of Islam is to eliminate any hard feelings or any ill feelings or any negative feelings that one may have due to the behavior of others if you actually look at the common denominator and that which correlates everything that I've mentioned today in terms of the etiquettes you will find that all of them are based on the concept and the principle of being considerate to your to others and others being considerate to you and this also falls under the concept of the process LMU said in hadith labora while out there are they should be no harm caused and it should be no represelication of heart so you need their harm others nor do you want harm to be upon yourself and we have lot to learn and even though we know we have lot that we need to implement that we are simply not implementing but alhamdulillah Vic offend secret elf Armenian shall have the reminder will benefit the believers and those things are being mentioned so that we may practice them again brothers and sisters Ramadhan remains to be the golden opportunity to initiate all of these projects the sooner we start training ourselves to implement these things the better because right now we have the advantage of the shayateen being chained when they go back out on the first day of read then you know you will find it more challenging for you to adhere to these things but now is the time to do so so let us be considerate on all platforms and again wanna conclude my reminder and this lesson with the act Achatz of social media because lot of the things mentioned are related to physical locations and today you may say because of kovat 19 now let's go over 20 there's not much to be done we have lot of parallels between real life and social media life so you have to display the same kind of behavior comments when you criticize when you when you you know deal with people and groups when you send multiple messages someone will ask you question and then you know I've mentioned this before and they see that you message okay do you have that blue tick or whatever and then they send you question mark to question mark three question more for question mark as if you're hired yaga you're hired agent whose job is to reply to his questions instantaneously sometimes you read there so you know you have to observe patients this is form of seeking permission lot of people don't even say Salam aleikum wa iyyaka lord give havoc they are lot all lot old they send you the question or they call you on the phone brother if I'm going for Angra brother what what if I'm not available your brother my let's let's see ani first couple of words of kindness towards each other that's one extreme where people have no consideration to you and your personal time and they want everything Allah to Allah to Allah - they start writing caps lock and big letters and bold letters like want your attention now the other extreme as people that beat around the bush forever yeah and especially on Facebook remember now remember why Facebook was such an issue on Facebook person as you as friend hamed allow you know you accept the request they have 20 minute conversation with you asking you every question how is the situation of koban 19 in Saudi where in Saudi are you where are you from brother how old are you Tom how was the weather over there and what about yeah yeah see what do you be my with nobody has time to have 25 minute conversation with everyone chatting I'm now we're not tea or coffee shop that we're getting to know each other because you're gonna propose to my daughter or you know we don't know what's what is the occasion then when you say brother barik alaa fee and you try to be nice and kin and accommodating brother is there anything need no no brother just wanted to you know get to know me Habibi ma yeah need you can get to know me and brief sense so again consider other people's time so when you want to speak with someone or if you want to send the voice message don't send 15-minute voice message ranting on and on repeaters time we want to communicate with the world we need to have proper since you have to prepare it's not fair that you can arrange your ideas and you want someone to answer your question you don't give enough information so the question becomes long back and forth before you get to understand what that person wants these are just little tips and tricks so we can all be good because know you want to be good want to be good we ought to be good so it's all good insha'Allah jacques culot bargain la vie comme c'est maintenant Bramnick eyeshadow on the 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