What Is Considered Family Ties And Who Has The Right Of Keeping Ties

question says what is considered as cutting family ties and who has right to their ties being kept have developed anxiety regarding this after coming across one hadith pertaining to this have big family and it's difficult to keep reach may allah reward you the general rule is that you keep ties with anyone who's considered to be your family and anyone who's considered to share womb with you whether it's relative or family member close or distant and obviously it's going to differ from person to person how you treat your mother and your father your brother your sister is not necessarily how you want to treat your aunt or your uncle how you treat your aunt or your uncle who lives in your country is not like you're going to teach someone who's abroad someone who's abroad is not like someone who is very very far distant someone who's muslim may not be like someone who isn't muslim someone who's righteous and pious may not be like someone who's wicked or ignorant someone who isn't the best muslim but they're respectful isn't like someone who mocks and makes fun of you whether they're muslim or supposedly muslim or not muslim why you have beard why do you dress like that don't come over here with that dress take off in the club uncover your face it's 2018. we're modern we're progressive they make fun of you so it depends at the end of the day you give them the basic standard of good treatment the basic standard whether it's phone call or visit or gift or money it doesn't have to be every single day did you see this family member it doesn't have to be every single month there may be some family members you want to see year some people you may not have the ability to talk to every day you may send them gift in the mail you may give them money you may do service for them okay and it may be your mother in which you do something for her every single day if you don't live with her some brothers who don't know what their mothers they see their mothers every day or they're always with their mothers my mother lives in different state she comes over my house bring her food she cooks for me it depends what's important is is that everyone has to get something and whenever they request you you try to give them what they request of time of money of service etc what's important is is that these things go back to custom and culture custom and culture where come from when you're 18 years old you leave your mother's house it's not part of my culture for grown man to stay with his mother that's my culture maybe different than your culture if man is 18 and he lives with his mother he's considered loser that's that's that's my american culture you're staying with your mother you're grown man you don't have job you're not married you're not going to college you don't have girlfriend you're not considered successful and it's the the custom to leave the house but you have to visit your mother take out the trash fire take us to restaurant give her money help pay the bills buy thing of roses or flowers she has leaking roof or faucet you fix it you go over you take your children over there she wants to see her grandchildren whack of that but you may come from country or culture in which you have to stay with your mother and you get married and you live in house with your wife and children it's different you may come from culture what you have to do with your mother every single day you may come from culture in which you have to give percentage of your paycheck to your parents if that's your culture and it's not against the kitab and the sunnah al-aadah as is one of the major fick maxims the odds of the custom is the judge so it depends on where you are every family member doesn't get the same amount of treatment and it depends on cultural values as long as those cultural values are not against the quran in the sunnah as long as those cultural values do not necessitate haram or shikh or biddah or disobedience and allah