Writing like this will change your life

writing has changed my life and believe it can change your life too probably more easily than you think so in this video let me explain to you very basic starting point for how to change your life through writing if you currently don't have writing practice and give you an idea of what more advanced introspective Writing Practice could look like writing is an incredible tool for self-discovery and self-development and it can be used for many many things the one aspect want to zoom in on for the writing exercises I'm going to walk you through here is peace of mind it is using writing as tool to unwind inner tension and kind of calm down noisy mind come to place of Greater peace and equinity for me that is one of the huge benefits but not the only one that I've derived from introspective writing so where to start the very basic Basics if you do not have Writing Practice if you've never experimented with writing as tool for self-development this is how recommend you start get into the habit of writing once day recommend in the evening last thing before you go to bed get pen and paper so you don't want to be staring at screen right that's going to be bad for your sleep anyway so it's much better to have like low lighting and just pen and paper and start writing and start by doing what call brain dump where you just write whatever is in your head out onto the page set aside around 20 minutes to do this some writing sessions will be longer some will be shorter but think 20 minutes is good amount to aim for and you just sit down and you start writing and your goal is just to express whatever you want to express and to keep the pen moving and see what happens the very first thing to do with Writing Practice is to learn how to get into the flow of writing without second guessing yourself so that you're not going should write this is it okay to write this am writing this correctly is my handwriting neat none of that stuff matters you want to get into flow of expressing yourself onto the page maybe this comes easy to you maybe you need little practice that's why I'm saying you know do this more than once like do this for at least 5 days every evening to see how it develops as you do more repetitions here are some useful prompts that you can use as starting point for your evening writing sessions what is alive for me right now what is on my mind right now what wants to be expressed what am worried about what am afraid of what thoughts have been bouncing around in my head for too long the invitation here is to start writing and you write about stuff that feels Alive stuff that feels emotionally charged and you just practice expressing yourself honestly and in flow onto the page initially this isn't about trying to solve problems it's really just about expression and if nothing else you'll probably sleep better when you do this you know if you just write down all the stuff that's bouncing around in your mind all the stuff you worried about until you feel like that's it I've emptied myself out onto the page and then you go to bed you'll probably fall asleep much more easily and if that's the only thing that 20-minute evening writing session does for you that's already amazing considering how incredibly important sleep is and how deeply it affects basically every aspect of your life and your performance however when you do this you're almost certainly going to see other benefits as well you will find that you come to Great Moments of clarity that it it takes load off of you you're just like stuff that you've been worried about for so long you write about it it suddenly isn't so scary anymore or suddenly you come to like conclusion here's what should do about this or sometimes you realize I'm worrying about something that can just stop worrying about and it's fine you come to these kinds of moments these are har moments just through this practice of writing and this is why say if you've never done this before try this out for at least 5 days with these prompts with this focus and it will already do world of good for you this kind of writing is what would call journaling and this alone can already change your life however would say that this is like 5% of the power level of what you can accomplish through writing and this is where the practice call introspective writing is different from just journaling so let's have look at what more advanced introspective writing session could look like as starting point think of source of conflict or tension or stress in your life that has to do with other people ideally with other people that you're not too close to or maybe like general group of other people if you're like okay my co-workers don't respect my time or don't value my work enough that kind of conflict is good the reason say this is simply because the intensity level and the ulty level of doing an exercise like this increases the closer and more intimate your relationship with that other person is so if you have source of stress or tension with one of your parents or your spouse then yes of course there's lot of potential for growth there it's absolutely something to work through in writing but it is so charged that if you don't practice if you if you don't kind of build the fundamentals it can be quite difficult to actually break through kind of all the emotional noise and get to the kind of insights we're looking for so that's why I'm saying source of conflict or stress with someone else or other people but not your closest relationships is good place to start I'll give you an example from my own life have experienced lot of rejection from other people especially when was younger this was constant theme for me always felt like was excluded other people rejected me felt like people basically don't like me don't want to be my friend and don't want to date me felt rejected in this way so that would be the conflict other people are rejecting me you write about that and the first thing is what talked about before just Express what comes up talk about what is this thing that keeps happening what is this source of stress and tension and dissatisfaction in your life write about what happens write about how do you feel about it and make sure that you really Express whatever wants to be expressed that is step one one step two describe what you wish those other people or that other person did for you describe what they ought to do so in my case of feeling rejected all the time it could be things like well people should be friendlier and more approachable they should make more of an effort to include me even if I'm bit shy and introverted they should accept me for who am they should value me for who am as person and they should more readily assume that want to connect with people and that I'm friendly and that I'm worth getting to know even if my exterior can maybe be cold and unapproachable okay so now we have the problem the feelings about the problem and the list of stuff that these other people should do now comes the interesting part there are three really interesting things to examine here and this will probably be too much for single writing exercise it might make more sense to do this in three different sessions but just want to give you like preview of where we can take this so number one is look at that list that you just wrote and ask ask yourself am doing this what would happen if did this for myself and for other people and write down like process what happens in writing spoiler what usually happens is that you go uhoh this is an almost perfect list of instructions for myself even though wrote it for other people it turns out I'm not being friendly and approachable and proactive but I'm asking them to be say other people should value me more for who am am doing that am valuing me for who am turns out no it usually happens that almost everything you wrote on that list is something that would solve your problem if you did more of it towards other people or you did more of it towards yourself or both number two look at the problem that you describe and as you perceive it happening to you from other people and ask yourself to what degree am doing that to myself so I'm experiencing other people rejecting me in what way am rejecting myself this one hit me pretty hard because it became clear to me that it's mostly me doing the rejecting that am experiencing so might be among group of of new people people are mingling and there's group of people see standing over there and want to go talk to them they seem interesting they seem to be having good time but then there's story in my mind that says you know they're they're busy talking to each other don't want to go interrupt so I'm just going to stand here and wait what am doing here am rejecting my desire to go talk to them they're not rejecting me I'm doing the rejecting before they ever get the chance this was pattern saw lot in my life around this Rejection it was kind of shocking for me to see that most of the time what felt like was other people rejecting me was actually me rejecting myself first then number three again look at that problem as you describe it as other people doing it to you and ask yourself in what ways am doing this to other people here the examples with rejection are also numerous in my life where first of all anytime I'm preemptively rejecting someone and end up not only like not talking to them but maybe even avoiding them I'm essentially rejecting them as well because so strongly assume that they don't want to have anything to do with me and also because have such fear of being rejected and such an assumption that people will reject me tend to over interpret anything as signal of disinterest which can lead to someone maybe trying to connect with me reach out to me in some way but I'm over interpreting any kind of negative signal as they don't want to have anything to do with me and end up being the one actually rejecting them so this is an example of introspective writing where you start with something that is emotionally charged that is usually the most interesting stuff you start with some problem in your life some conflict or tension in your life and then you look at it through different lenses and you process it in writing and this is really really important because as you're going along with this example you'll maybe think of something in your life where you're like yeah this is kind of the same you know accuse other people of like not valuing my time but then if look at it kind of don't value my own time as well interesting but if you actually do it in writing and you take the time to write it out express the emotions Express the story you tell yourself in your head and then actually flip it around and look at how am doing this to myself how am doing this to other people and process in writing what goes through your mind and what you're experiencing it will have much deeper impact and even just bringing this much awareness to pattern in your life can sometimes be enough to nudge that pattern and kind of start derailing and start changing that aspect of how you experience life recently released an introspective writing course that walks you through series of exercises like this that are designed to essentially step by step peel back the layers of inner resistance and tension and open up to getting more and more out of exercises like this now of course made this course want you to buy it think it'll change your life but also even more so want to encourage you to do the writing practice so please do the writing practice that described here to give yourself an experience of how powerful this can be especially if you've never done any kind of writing before also I'll leave link below to my introspective writing crash course where you can learn more of this stuff completely for free in my community this is bit outdated I'll probably update it fairly soon but still it's better than nothing you can check that out like really want you to dive in and experience introspective writing and writing as personal development tool first and foremost and then hopefully you find it so useful that you want to buy my course but why make course in the first place like this is where again there's difference between journaling and introspective writing because introspective writing is systematic approach and the way I've laid it out is that you first go through ser of exercises that help you learn this honest self-expression onto the page learn how to not second guess yourself not self-censor while you're writing and just get into that flow of writing then you go through series of exercises that are essentially designed to dissolve inner tension that come from your relationship to yourself lack of self-acceptance lack of self-love putting pressure on yourself negative selft talk this kind of stuff we work through some of that system atically in writing exercises then we go into conflict with others and so the preview gave here is actually from that it's like several phases into the Writing Practice conflict with others which is something you can see more clearly the more you've dissolved the conflict in yourself the more you've dissolved that inner tension in your relationship with yourself the more clearly you can see and the less caught in the emotional noise you will be when you work through conflict with others and you can escalate that into to more and more difficult more and more triggering forms of conflict work through that in writing and the awesome thing about this is that the more you learn to see yourself with more empathy and more kindness the more you learn to see other people with more empathy and more kindness the more you learn to see yourself with more empathy it's basically virtuous cycle so once you get into this practice you'll see that the two sides of this resolving conflict with yourself or or gaining more peace with yourself and gaining more peace with others become two parts that essentially feed each other and this brings us back to peace of mind because as you can imagine if you have less and less conflict with yourself and less and less conflict with others then you have greater peace and equinity in your life after that we go into phase of what call Loop gardening where you look at the loops the habitual Loops that are running in your life and you look at well do these serve me or not and you deploy very specific tools to kind of deconstruct that and untangle the loops that don't serve you and after that we go into what call the playground which is just whole bunch of different writing exercises for all kinds of different purposes which includes things like you know making better decisions through writing figuring out what to do with your life and your time and you what your life purpose is and that kind of stuff all of that is much easier to do when you've done the ground work so this is why created course think that there is structured approach to do this that essentially unlocks deeper and deeper layers and lets you experience greater greater benefits from writing practice and the best way to do it is in this order there's series of exercises in the introspective writing course that call thinly sliced life which is about how to see yourself almost from an external perspective and how to gain deep and Lasting sense of empathy and compassion first for yourself and then also for other people now could give you summary of this exercise maybe put some bullet points here of how to do this but think that the best way to experience this is as part of the entire course it's an experience over several days where we lay lot of we do lot of foundational work first and then you go into this thinly sliced life exercise over several days and I've designed it like this because I'm really trying to create this in way so that has the deepest possible impact and just you know YouTube video explaining writing exercise that people are going to watch at 1.5x speed and they go yeah it's interesting then go watch the next thing it just won't have that impact and that's why that's not how I'm presenting that specific exercise all right so that is my answer to the question how is introspective writing different from just journaling and how will it change your life like said before highly encourage you to try these writing exercises that I've laid out here I'll put links below I'll make community post where just put the instructions for these writing exercises as reference so you can check that out and link to the introspective writing crash course which you can look up for free and link to the sales page where you can buy the full introspective writing course if that sounds interesting to you if you have any other questions about this please don't hesitate to leave comment right here and also try this out you can do the basic basic writing exercise for couple of days and let me know what happens for you let me know how it makes you feel you can try out the more advanced exercise we looked at try it out see what comes up would love to hear your stories of moments and insights that you get from trying this out so go ahead try it out and leave comment below that's all for now thank you for watching and I'll see you in the next one