Mothers of the Believers Khadija

be informed sms your name 2046 triple zero uma tonight it is titled the mothers of the believers and lot of people know that the mothers of the believers is term that is used to describe the wise of the rasool salah but the question is why do you describe the wives of the rasools as the mothers of the believers verily the nabi the prophet referring to the rasool salah is guardian of the muslims over the believers more than themselves and his wives are the mothers the describes the meaning of the term the phrase that is used in the ayah what does that mean when the rasool when allah says that the prophet is more for guardian over the believers than themselves he says and in different narrations in bukhari in other books of sunnah he says am and more am more responsible for the believer then he is responsible for himself if he leaves dependent children if he dies and leaves dependent children if he dies and he leaves debt then am responsible for his children and am responsible for his debt and if he dies and he leaves wealth then his wealth is to go to the aids to his ear so therefore the relay of the rasools the guardianship of the resource over the believers is guideline of responsibility and mercy and kinship at the same time giving them the comfort that the rasools will always look after them their debt is his debt and their children is their children and that's why as the father of the believers and once the rasool sallam in the hadith found muslim with when he was teaching the companions some of the etiquette some of the etiquettes of how to go to the bathroom he begins his speech by saying and am like father for you so then be shy or feel discomfort if discuss with you some personal stuff that is the role that rasool has and therefore for every person there is an orphan he should know that is his father in prophecy if he's one of his followers for every person that might have father that does not fulfill what he likes or does not grow to the expectation that he has then let him know that the rasool is the father for him as he is father for every single believer as he is guardian for every single believer guardian that we are and they are to be treated like the believers treat their mothers in terms of the respect that should be given to them in terms of the status that should be preserved for them they are to be respected and they are to be treated in the best ways and that's why we have the title the mothers of the believers for the wives of the rasools because that's how allah described them to us an extension from this and of course listen they will not be sufficient to cover all the topics that are that relate to the issue an extension from this this means that the honor of the rasool sallam and the honor of the wise of the rasools is part of the honor of every single believer what harms them harms us and what benefits them benefits us and the love that our believers should have to the wives of the rasool is equal why because of more than one factor the one of the most important factors is that their love stems from your love to the rasools and your respect to them stems from the respect of the rasool and the love of the rasulullah to his wives and as result and as the scholars of islam say if you truly love someone then you love those whom he loves and that is our standard and that is our state or that is our treatment that's how our treatment should be with the wives of the each one of them and all of them are one would in favor one over the other order love one or hate another we all treat them the same tonight and this series inshallah will expand over couple of weeks am humbled to be selected to speak about the first wife of the rasool salah and khadija our mother khadijah and would like you to if you can develop the habit that whenever you mentioned the name you mentioned you mentioned the title his wife is the first one for the rasula and by the consensus of the scores of islam is more greater than thousand men or million men or 10 million is the first person to enter in islam and we're going to go back to how this took place before we talk about her embrace to the islam to this religion let's talk about her character first khadijah her name is her name is khadijah the daughter of the the son of assad from from the lineage of abdul aziz and she is from the direct tribe of the rasul ali and her mother's name is father bin zayed and also she her mother is also from the tribe of the resource islam so therefore from the beginning there is connection of kinship or lineage between khadijah and the rasool salah that connection of kinship or lineage is some is one that is common for all the people of praise because all the people of quran are in fact one tribe and they're all the descendants of who of ismail ali islam so therefore they're all close and they're all for one tribe but they had in their society they had in the in the city lot of foreigners lot of arabs who come from other tribes but quraish all of them are in fact kinship and all related to one another the scholars of history of the islamic history they say that she was born 15 years before the incident of the elephant and for those who know about the life of the resource and the birth of the sword they know what is the significance or what event we are referring to when we talk about the of the elephant and the people of mecca consented that khadija was tattooed as tahira the title of khadija in the society of makkah is the pure that's what suhaili one of the famous scholars of the seer of the rasools islam he says and khadija was known was started as the pure before islam and was started as the pure after islam what does that mean this means that khadijah had reputation for being chased for being ethical for being moral and upright before islam to the extent that all the inhabitants all the people of torres agreed that she is the best of women that live in their society and that's why when the art when they began to refer to her they gave her the title which is which means the purified one and this is significant trait and significant part of the alarm why because the arabian society back then was tribal society and it was wild society it was society that was built on strength and power so even the arabs amongst them amongst one another was no there was nothing that is so significant about woman woman is something they used they used to inherit like they inherit anything else that is in there in their household if someone dies he leaves wife she gets inherited with whatever that is left that's what so for her to be so high in the eyes of people who are served backward in their mentality that means she was really really special that she forced her respect upon them in terms of her character second the society in which khadijah lived and and the society in which rasul was born is society that had very open sexual relationships there was no such thing as this is not right or this is right this is taboo you can do this you cannot do that they had they'll do whatever they want there's not there's no such thing as bad or there's no such thing as something that is prohibited they'll do whatever they want so for her to have such an upright character in such an environment that this means that this lady had very genuine and very pure soul in herself that she deemed herself higher than her whole environment and that's why she's do that lot of people they become good they become good after they get religious lot of brothers that that we know some some of they come to the center they come to other centers before being religious they used to do lot of things lawyer they do lot of things once they they become religious they decide to change their life so therefore that for lot of people the presence of faith is what causes the change in their behavior what causes their change in the whole course of life what is significant is the khadijah in the arab society there was no faith there was no moral system there was nothing for her to choose to be like this without the encouragement of her faith without the preaching of anyone then that shows again what great personality that khadijah and think that's something that should be remembered for her before we get into anything else before the rasool sallam khadija gamer twice her first husband his name was and he died so she was widow and then she married second time to someone called abu hala and then abu halla also died and therefore she was widowed another time so never been divorced but without twice since then kharis decided not to get married again so she put marriage on the side despite the fact that all the chiefs of quraysh all the noble of quraysh those who saw themselves the class the classy people or the highest people of of their society were interested in khadijah for many of the qualities there that she has basically never paid attention to anyone she never was interested she would turn down any offer that comes to her and think that this was because of the fact that he should not find in any of them the character or the man that matches the kind of personality that she had the match is the kind of principles that she had they're all wild man they had the issue of honor and the issue of ethics is not something that is important to them so therefore she could not see in any in anyone that is present despite the fact they have status they have power they have money wealth all the things that lot of people today or some people do as some women it attracts them khadija was not interested was not interested in that so what did you do she actually was businesswoman the tribe of quraysh they lived in desert so there's no there's no agriculture back then there was no such thing as manufacturing so the only source of living is trade so and she was very wealthy she was very very wealthy so she began to work in business and she was known as famous businesswoman in the society of of quraysh and also in her business she became very famous what would you what would she what would she what she would do is that she will not go out and buy and sell she will actually hire men and this man will work for her and because paris is city in the middle of of huge desert the source of trade will have to come from outside so therefore they'll get to the sham or they'll get to the yemen the trip of the winter and the trip off their summer so what she used to do she used to enter into partnership with the merchants in quresh to select who is good and they should do business deal with them and therefore she will say okay the money will come from me will fund whatever commodities you want to buy and i'll give you set percentage and they call this modality in arabic where the effect comes from from one party in the in the transaction and the funding comes from another party in this manner she actually invested and she grew her her wealth and she became very very successful as well and she gained lot of reputation in her business dealing to the extent that anyone in quraish will actually be very happy if khadija chooses him to be her partner never lie never cheat so she was also upright in the way that she does business at the same time she will not use her feminine skills to gain any wealth so she'll not try to deceive she'll not try you know to to do anything that is indecent for her to get to gain wealth some people you know they that try to find the best secretary that someone is that is good looking they speak nice to them no khadija she kept her chastity to very very high level she got engaged in business but with that without compromising anything that relates to her personality anything that relates to her status which indicates high level of intelligence especially for woman to do that in society as we said where women are regarded very or are treated very very bad the fact that she was able to gain recognition so therefore is person that had strong personality now how did you come across with the resource islam how did they meet to get into this we have to understand the an aspect in the life of the resource now as you all know the rasool sallam he was an orphan and often from his father before he was born and often of his of his mother and then after few years and often from his grandfather so therefore the one who was responsible for the rasool eventually was his uncle abu talib you had lot of fat who had lot of kids when the rasools grew up and he grew up in house in household that is poor he saw the poverty of his uncle so therefore he began to look for job and he began to work and as as we said the only work that he can do in in in mecca is commerce so he began to work for people with the intention of helping and assisting his uncle we had lot of kids but not have lot of wealth so he felt so in relation to that so rasulullah he began first with partnership with man called assad so they became partners what were they what they would do they'll go for example and they'll work for particular merchant for particular ways that they will be paid or sometimes what they'll do they say okay listen if you want to send if you want to send some commodities to this area we'll take them we sell them for you so sort of like retailing like retailing position will they actually sell some items for someone for particular business or for particular merchant and he sallah sallam before that he was very known for his high ethics and his morals and as was the title of the sword said the truthful one and the trustworthy one so anyone that worked with was happy to have him with him this repetition of the rasool sallam grew bigger when he actually became more engaged in business and the seven him together with them working together they made they made good money however the work of the rasools remained within the boundaries of of the of the region of makkah and the big money was actually new gown out to the sham area which is high which is fire journey and also the the amount of of of commodities that you buy is huge because it is something that they do seasonally so therefore the percentage that you get will be high percentage sabotage the uncle of the rasools he's happy that he's working but he wants him to work bit harder so he goes up to the resource and he says to him why don't you go and work for khadijah hadija is known to be good lady she's very good businessman woman she's very generous you go work for her was shy and he said probably she was sent for me and he ignored the requests of his uncle abu talib as the decree of allah took place job opportunity came for the rasul sallam with hala the sister of khadija and the job was taken by him and by his partner they went and they sought some some stuff some commodities for her and then she paid him and she was she was good to them as well hello and halle is is someone that became muslim as well and there's story that will go back to insha'allah relation to her but when she paid him should not pay him in full you know sometimes if you do some assault trading business they pay you but they're not paying for they'll leave some money behind the rasools did not go back and seek whatever was left from the fee that they charged had and hispanic will always go to the rasool and will tell him let's go back she still also someone that's going to collect her mother let it go it's okay it's not small amount this news reached who you know still earn some money but this man was too shy to come and to take that money from me that's something that is really to find in amen became interested in interested completely one lesson will not be will not be sufficient but let's summarize bit so she sent to the rasools and she said would like to meet with you so that also went to her and then respected him and said to him have heard has reached me the reputation that you have for being truthful in your speech and for being great in your honesty with people and for the noble manners that you have and if you agree to work for me now will pay you double the amount that anyone will pay you he's dealing with her as normal person he's not he's not thinking that he's messenger it's just business deal so here assalamu accepted and they said and the business trip was to go to the shem which is you know the shame area the the area that is assaulted today may allah given victory over the enemies and she's and she was very intelligent woman so what she did what did she do she sent with him one of her servants his name is mesa was given the task of watching the rasool sallam and if you say surveilling him why because the rasool sallam was not businessman like other people were businessmen was worker she gave him the role of what of her partner so she wants to find out more about the person of the rasools she's at peace with the fame with the reputation that has developed but she wants to know more about it there's another factor that that that is that is important here is that there were news in the arabian peninsula because of the exposure of the arabs with the jews in relation to the emergence you have heard about this one before someone remember they say that this also played factor why she wanted maestro to watch him but from from what we can see she wanted to know she wanted to find out more about the character of the resource so off they go off they went they went to the sham and messer was watching the rasool sallallahu sallam at every step and messer did not say anything that is bad from the rasool he saw an upright character the resource islam was someone that is easy in his transactions the resources even recommended not to argue in your transactions lot if people want discount to give bit of discount okay if people want more from you give him bit more he wasn't he didn't like this harshness in business and also mention notice that whenever the heat will be intense that cloud will always shade the resources so here's recording everything that has taken place on on on the way they're arrested in particular place before they entered the sham and the rasool under particular tree and there was solitary place where monk his name is nastur he was living there so he went out and he saw the rasool he looked at him and then he called me said who is the man he said that man his name is muhammad he said tim that man is prophet yes said okay he didn't answer anything back and they said to him does he always have redness in his eye that never goes away at any time he said yes he said here told you this man is prophet this conversation took place between masra and the monk and then they took off they went to the chamber which the resources bought whatever commodities he can he can buy for good for good price and then he returned back to mecca and that's part of the deal he was responsible for selling and distributing so they sold it and they made double the the profit that they usually make masala went back to khadija and he informed of everything that has taken place with them throughout the trip including the words of the monk nastur that he heard from him and the respect of hadith grew more than just the repetition they heard about him because this became personal interaction with the rasool salah and then the situation developed from there to situation of love between them fell in love she found in him the man that she likes the man that she seeks is not only someone that is famous for being good in business but is also someone that is in fact what has been said about him in all the aspects of his life and even if people are religious or not religious some people even that are religious they can be bad in business like they can sometimes cheat and and and like and even if you if you co if you recall back the words of khadija when she called rasool and she said i'm interested in working in business with you she didn't say because you sell good she didn't say because you know how to cheat how to lie how to get rid of the products no say because you are truthful in your speech you are trustworthy meaning you'll never betray me and because you are noble in your manners and that's why would like to deal with you so therefore she found in the rasools personality that completes what she likes in amen however it was not the norm of the woman as it is until today to propose was not thinking of marriage at this particular stage of his life for many reasons one of them is the fact that rasool is poor and whatever money he was making out of out of his work he was given it to you his uncle so he can support himself so she liked him but she does not want to make the first move at the same time the rasools aslam is not giving her any room to make anything so she decided to put someone between them some narrators they say it was hala the very sister that also dealt with in the first place another narration says was nafissa one of her friends said to you like him sadie like him but he doesn't it's not really showing any interest in me and find it hard or it's improper for me to you know to to propose to him so nafisa said okay i'll i'll do that so she went to the rasulullah said with him and he said muhammad why why aren't you married until now that also was 25 years old he said don't have the money to to to marry anyone you know marriage is and the arabs and the concept of dairy is something that existed back then and the concept of the man being responsible for the house is something that existed back then so the rasool knew that marriage is more than just having someone they are intimate with is actually responsibility so said have the the money that we're with can actually approach someone propose to them and and support them so said to the rasool sallam how about if someone will not ask you for any of that will relieve you from this from this responsibility will not ask for any high dairy and will accept you as you are and this person is someone that is beautiful is someone that is respectful is someone that is noble in their people and someone that you can find your match in them if you can find someone that is beautiful and noble and and has the status of in ethically high and has the status prestigious status at the same time equal to you he said and who would be accepting for me he said she was four years old at this stage and the rasool said would she accept me and the fisa said yes i'll work with that i'll work on that so therefore nafisa did not even give the rasool the impression that khadija sent her she said i'll work on her so sort of she's trying to say that i'm you know i'm trying to do something good for you and for her and and here there is an aspect of probably her trying to main to maintain the the dignity of of khadijah of the alliance she goes i'll approach her i'll speak to her and i'll fix you up you know angus okay if you accept them yes of course or something like that you know what called me what caused me to be interested in you is the status that you have amongst your people for you as for you are the best of them in your ethics and your manners and your speech and your trustworthiness and you look after your family and look after your kinship and that's why i'm interested in you and allah also was interested in hadith this informal meeting from there they followed the custom which was what which was for the man to come and propose for the lady so that rasul went went back to his family he said he went up top and he said wanna get married so the rasool went back with his family with his uncle and with an uncle hamza and they went and approached approached her family some some schools of of of history they say that the one who married off was her father and some they say was her brother in relation to difference in relation whether hawaii was alive or was not alive at this particular stage and they came and they gave they have all theirs to give speech i'm not gonna go through the speech so we can save some time and he said we are interested in your daughter would like you know how you are from the good people and and and part of the speech was and as you know wealth is something that is not fundamental in the character of man what is fundamental is the status the nobility of the lineage and the manners that the person has and that was in the speech and the speech of of abu talib was very eloquent and very well versed and was accepted by the family of khadija and they got married now here's the question somewhere intelligence they say and that's misconception that we would like to to address that for the sake of wealth he was greedy he was interested in her wealth and he wanted her to fund him for what he does and this proposal cannot be accepted for many reasons first of all historically the rasools did not begin to work except for the sake of helping his uncle and the personality of someone that is greedy in wealth he will not be very interested in helping others the one that wants money he gives money to himself and what and what is shocking something that discovered probably five years ago is is is an article in the daily telegraph where spoke about the least people that give in donation are the wealthy people and and that shocked me because and that makes sense because you want to get wealthy then you keep your money to yourself you didn't give it out so the resource he never collected anything for himself everything that he has earned he gave it to his uncle even later on the rash when he was living with khadija he took one of the children off his uncle abu talibari and he put him with him and he looked after him so he can relieve his uncle so that that kind of personality that that is looking out for for helping others cannot be greedy personality that's what the second thing is that the rasool sallam before khadijah during his life with khadijah and throughout the time until the time of his death salah sallam he lived life of poverty and he lived life of poverty because he chose to be poor the rasool will not keep any wealth for himself all the world that he has he will give it out to the muslims to the poor of the muslims and the rasools lived poor life and life of servitude to allah and he forced this life upon his daughter as well he did not allow lecture in his life not source of any stage even asha she can place that meat is something that was scarcely they will eat in their life and when he died the shield that he used to use in the battlefield was put as mortgage with one of the jew merchants so he can actually get with an amount of wheat which was used to make some bread for him to eat so he left no wealth whatsoever he did not even allow his daughter father to wear any gold nicholas he said to her go out and play in charity and she paid it and chatted for someone that is poor that kind of personality that kind of persistence in the life of person shows you that this claim is completely false why because it is not consistent with the personality that this man have led besides the fact that the rasool islam is not the one that went to khadijan asked to work for her and besides the fact that the resources not the one that saw khadijah in marriage so therefore that claim is claim that cannot be accepted because factually it is completely wrong they got married and now you have household of khadijah and rasulullah he was she was 40 years old and he was 25 years old even by today's standards that's that's major age gap but the arabs did not have an issue with age gap the issue of age gap not if not but the whole arabian peninsula did not have an issue with age gap they will not when they'll marry someone they don't think old or young they're interested in interested in someone they get married so that so the issue of the age does not play role another element that comes that comes into effect here is that and lot of teenagers are around is that when you're on your youth days these are your best days so therefore you want to go out as much as you want you know you want to enjoy yourself as much as much as you want so if the rasools are someone that is so interested with this desire and so focused on it why would you not why would he not be involved in any other sexual relationship in his society in general even before his marriage to khadijah was 25 years old back then in society where it was normal for woman to have sexual intercourse with more than one men like four or five and then at the time when she is about to deliver she'll call him and should look at the baby and say okay you know what you you are the father so you take him in society where it was normal for woman because of the issue of status for her to sleep behind the or actually with the knowledge of her husband but without him knowing directly to sleep with someone that is noble and to have children child from him so they can lift up the lineage if they are they come from poor lineage that's something that the arabs did and that was something that is completely normal in this society why was it the habit of the rasool sallam in such society that had as said no moral system that locks any kind of sexual relationship not to engage in any kind of relationship with any woman before khadija until he was 25 years old before someone they so focus on his desire and why would he when he gets married he chooses someone and as as famous he was and the rasool was good looking someone that is 40 years old whether there is 15 years gap between him and her lot of people when when when they speak about the rasools they don't compare the kind of facts that are presented or the count of the kind of information that are presented that apply to that to the to the society in which that also lived or they applied to the kind of personality believe that person every person has his own sort of personality and no one can hide this personality for long time you can act on someone for one or two months but eventually people will know who you are you open up you will out and the percentage of the rasool sa-sam was clean to his people was clear to hades and the element of of the sexual desire something that did not exist and the results with khadija for 25 years of his life 25 years never was he interested in anyone besides her never did he marry anyone besides hadith two decades and half they lived together they rasulullah mere anyone else in society where polygamy was something that is very normal as well that poses the question why if was person of desire would not marry someone else or would not cheat on her was deeply in love with hadith and they live together perfect life and there's hadith there's there's we're going to come to hadith where khadija was given special word by allah because of the kind of life that she lived and they lived normal no problems for 25 years and they had six children al qasim and abdullah the first two males and they died when the young al qasim he died when he was crawling and abdullah also died at young age and what remained of the lineage of the rasool was four girls fatima and they lived even after after khadija after the mother's life and was interesting and we're going to come to some of the hadith is that they were deeply in love with their father and fatima and one of the articles i've written her tattoo was the mother of her father anyway we're not gonna get into life of fatima that's that's different that's different issue when the rasool got to the age of 40 he was getting closer to the age of 40 particular things in his life began to change he began to see more dreams more visions in his dreams we will see something that is taking place and in his dream and then he'll wake up and he will see in reality this increase in the love for the rasools now if if you if you go back in love with rasulullah you find that some supernatural things happen to him when he was young very young like when he was with halima and then they stopped and russell was normal now as he was getting close to the age of 40 the dreams became more consistent no problems but then nothing used to happen is that whenever he would go past he'll walk past stand or walk past tree he will greet him okay we'll gray and say may peace be upon you messenger of allah this frightens rasulullah and hadith recorded the muslim rasool says later on he goes and remember astan in mecca they used to greet me and know until today so therefore some supernatural things began to happen in the life of the resource and for any person what happens to you when you hear someone greeting you and you look and you see stun you freak out and the resources but what he will do he will ignore it sometimes you see shadow say didn't see anything and you just past however the consistency of these would walk phenomenon increased and that's when began to get scared he began to see light like something the the scholars do not describe exactly what is but say he began to see lights and he began to hear some voices and he began to get very very frightened saladin some voices of people greeting him we're going to come to details of that and that's why and this is found in muslims so all this all these narrations are authentic we call the muslim and also recorded in the muslims so who did he confront to of course when you come to someone you said to them i'm hearing voices and i'm seeing lights ball lights what would people think of you yes exactly rasul did not confined for anyone to tell him to tell them about what is happening with him except and that shows the closeness that rasul islam had with hadith even al-baqarah his closest friend did not tell him he approached her and the hadith is found the muslim am hearing voices and see lights and am scared that am becoming crazy am becoming insane so he's speaking to her because he cannot stop it and what was happening is this was becoming more and more consistent with the following said to him of of abdullah allah will not do anything that harms you that's her words she's not muslim how did you know that said to him you are someone that is truthful in your speech you are someone that is noble in your manners and you are someone that helps those who are weak and don't think someone like you allowed anything that is evil to them so this is the phase that will get passed but it became more and more consistent the rasools and became more and more scared so she took him to warakka one of her cousins who was person that learned from the books of the jews and the christians answered him speak to him see lot of aspects in syria muslims themselves do not know because you only read one small book about it and read their psychopathic books about about syria so he went to waraqah and said to him okay what do you see he said see bowl of lights and see someone calling me but when look and don't find anyone he goes what did they say to you he says he says to me am jibril muhammad yeah am am jibril muhammad upon hearing this words he begins to say glorified glorified and purified is who is allah names of allah and he says how could the name like this meaning the name of jibril be heard in desert be heard in society where only others and statues are worshipped this sounds like prophecy of muhammad and the conversation ends then another goes back and waraqah was not able to rasul was not able to help the rasul with the visions with the or the light that he sing and with the voices that he is hearing but this was kept between them and khadijah she informed our baker about what's happening with the resource and therefore this stayed within between between them because if this goes out then think the resources is crazy from this rasool liked began to develop like in being alone so actually he would like to be secluded from from everyone from everyone else and he began to do something that the arabs used to do his grand grandfather used to do and people of qaeda is that they'll go see in cave and they'll contemplate over the creation of allah because they believe in allah as the god but they just believe he's god with other gods with many gods around him they help him out so therefore and they believe that god is the one that created heavens in the heavens and the earth so he began to go out in that hadith she was in her 50s at this stage because rasul was approaching his 40 his age of 40 years old she'll prepare his food for him and she'll let him out and he'll go to see and whenever his spirit will run out she'll go back and she'll prepare the food for him and never complain about his seclusion and sometimes the seclusion of what will reach period of month and here you choose the month of ramadan will actually see out in the in the cave of hera and and contemplate of the question of allah today if someone goes to their camp his wife complains today's three days where have you been going to too many lessons he'll leave her for month she will not complain that's how pleasant may allah means upon her she was with the rasool in fact she will bring him the food 50 years old for those who have been to hajj you know how roughly the mountains of makka shall climb up the mountains and deliver the fruit of the rasool in his cave that's why the status of hadith is not matched from there the light became clearer became bigger until the until the stage where the resources and he stood before him know the story of the revelation i'm not going to go i'm not going to go through it for the for the sake of time it's it's something that he's famous the interaction that happened between the rasools how did how did rasulullah turn him scared wanted to kill himself he said i'm going crazy he said either i'm going crazy or i'm becoming magician he goes because this is not something that is normal there is happening to me to me but the one that kept him steadfast and this one said to him she goes you are someone that look after your kinship you are the one that helps those who are needy you are the one that cares for those who are poor do you think allah will actually harm you in any way be steadfast what happened is the rasool after he came back home before we got to to to the to the famous story about him going to waraqah he also he continued to see jibril whatever he goes so she's covering him with blankets and she's standing next to him and said can still see him she's in medkit she goes come and see on my right thigh and he said you guys can you still see him she said yes he said come and see on my left side he's on her left side can you still see him he said yes he said come see in my lap can you still see him and he said yes said him okay and then she began to unbutton her dress and said him tell me if you still see him when she began to unbutton her breasts he said her dress he said can't see him anymore they said to him then rest my cousin for verily this is an angel and not devil because if you were devil then he would be shameless and he will stay even if try to lie even if unbutton my dress and get naked that shows the intelligence of that lady that shares the wisdom of the who taught all this it's the natural fitra her instinct of belief the fact that she kept herself upright in her character and ethics without the presence even of religion in her life is what is what caused allah to give her so much wisdom to support her that also says this is an angel not devil because there was that like those who take on the dress if he is he disappeared that means he's shy and then she took him again to warlock and he said team sit down and said waraka muhammad is going through bigger ordeals and then he spoke to him about what happened between him jibril and the words expect him and what said to him that means you are the prophet of this time wish was younger muhammad so can support you when your people will exile you and they fight you the rasools are something very innocent looked at him said to him why are they going to exile me they like me i'm upright i'm truthful i'm honest why are they going to exile me and abandon me said to him you know said he said to him no one has come with the message that you have come with except that his people have fought him of course i'm not here to talk about the life of the resource as wife did you say okay listen that's that's enough had enough with you i'll be supporting you with all these visions that you are saying now you are going to be exiled now they're going to take you as the enemy i'm going to be out of this well that's just the voice she didn't she stood by rasulullah and in fact khadija is the first person the first human to become muslim the scholars the mashiach usually when they speak they break those who become muslim in categories they say the first of women is khadijah and the first of man is aw bakker and the first of young of young kids or adolescents is ali and the first of slaves is zayd that breakdown sort of to to to to mild this say this is the first of everyone but the scholars of hadith and the scholars of syrah syria consent that the first person to embrace islam was khadijah and the first person the quran and timothy all the schools of hadith no one has ever disputed that fact and there is something that is that is very interesting and very and it's source of pride for the muslims for religion that there is accused of being an original oppresses woman for its first member to be woman and now woman that is young and foolish does not know what she's doing now woman in her 50s woman that is intelligent woman that is wise woman that is ethical and upright for her to accept that message there is source of pride for every single muslim and she supported him sallallahu alaihi wasallam and from there the life of the rasul completely changed evanesca says he declared the message the people of quran were not interested they began to fight him sallallahu but whenever he will be mistreated persecuted sworn out or abused or hit outside his house he will come but he will come back to his life and he'll he'll come back to his house and he'll find the comfort with her with hadith and she is the one that used to ease his pain and she's the one that used to support him salaam no differences amongst the scholars of of islam in relation to that fact and that's why ibn hajjar says and the minister of muhammad is khadijah and she was the truthful minister that he had will have the uncle that rasulullah something that lot of muslims do not know again because we don't read much in books of syria he used to live opposite to the rasool salah and the daughter of the rasulullah was married to his son they divorced him okay we don't have energy with you there was nothing the arabs not like even even even back back then they'll put filth on his house she will help him she'll clean it up so she supported him in his message all the way when allah first learned how to pray when jabir went down to him and he hit the ground and the stream water came out and he thought he told him how to make wudu and he told him how to make the salah rasulullah went back he called khadija and she came and he showed where the water came from and he taught her and they prayed together that's why feel hindi someone that became muslim late after probably five six years in the history of islam after the prophet after the migration of the rasallam he says remember once went to to makkah and also man and woman and young man doing something that is weird they washed themselves in weird way and then they began to move up and down he said where are these people i've never seen that kind of prayer that you guys do here he said team this is my my nephew muhammad and this is his wife and this ali and he claims there is prophet and apparently that's the way they pray as you can do he says after he becomes goes and wish was the fourth but didn't believe at this stage said okay interesting they just he just walked away so she even prayed public with the res publicly with the resources in front of everyone when no one will dare to do that because even those who used to pray they will try to and you know the stories where they are strangling they will step on his head they will hit him they'll hit any of the campaigns they will pray or they'll read the quran outlined in the vicinity of the this continued to be persistent until the time of the sanction which is similar to the concentration camps that the jews suffered the people of quraish at particular stage could not bear the resource they said to his family either you let us kill him and we'll pay you double his blood money or we can boycott you with him and abu talib the uncle of the rasool he became the leader of his tribe of his family he said no you're not allowed to touch him if you touch him it's war so that okay we're going to boycott you so the entire family of the rasools the muslims and they pushed him out of mecca and they lived in valley called abdul muttalib and they sanctioned them no one is allowed to speak to them no one has let them marry from them no one is allowed to buy from them no one's left to sell to them no one's allowed to come next to them and they signed the treaty amongst all the other families in the city of mecca and that stayed for three years and even when the muslims and the muslims who were with the resource from his family tried to buy food from outside from the traders who are coming from outside the people of quraish will pay them double to stop them from selling to the family of the resources and the only way they were able to get food is actually by smuggling it so they became smugglers and they became so hungry that that the voices of the of of of the children and the woman can be heard overnight over long distances khadijah was the wealthiest of women throughout the threes became the poorest person because she spent all her wealth in supporting these muslims and non-muslims who were starving she spent all her wealth smuggling and buying from them and despite the fact that she was not from the la from the family of the rasools she insisted on staying with him in the camps that they pushed him to and should go who's their nephew to smuggle wheat so they can feed these people and there's one instance that washed him and he said to him why are you stopping me this is khadijah that's her wealth you banned the family of muhammad she got nothing to do with it but even though they did not allow him to do that and they starved so much that one of the companies he said once was walking and they began and they began to eat to eat the skin of animals would you hear the skin of animal because once walked and found the skin of animal he goes took bbq cleaned it barbecued it and ate and lived on it for three days that's one of the companions of the resort she said the starvation of the rasool slam with him and she never left him by the way this this incident this concentration camp that stayed for three years over the rasul those who became muslim in his family caused lot of problems for the health of khadija and she died she died soon after that shortly after that she died even fatimah and lot of companies their body became very weakened because there was no food and they'll leave for days without food but the point is i'm talking about khadijah she lived with rasul saslam she stayed with them and she spent all her wealth supporting them and that's why she has the status that she has she died shortly after that this course says that she died after abu talib shortly after after abu talib says she died around the 20th of ramadan and the rasools aslam grieved lot for her death and she died after the sanction was lifted the arabs themselves the allies of quraysh would not be see what is happening to the to the children and to the woman so they themselves breached them they went down they broke and said listen this is inhumane there's not except this is not acceptable why are we torturing them for so much if he wants to be prophet let him be prophet shortly after that they returned to the houses she died islam under the source islam waved lot and he buried in his own hands and they said that after her death will not walk out from the house will not walk out from the house he goes to the extent that we feed for his life he will not speak to anyone he will sit and he will not come next to anyone until khalid hakeem and the companions began to go to him and speak to him and the city agreed with her goes yes am grieving for her she is the mother of my children and she is the lady of my house how could not grieve for her and he was only after he got she said okay let's find another wife for you and they began to speak to him they took the resources out of the sad mood that he was living that happened before israel so died three years before migration returned to makkah after 10 years yes throughout the 13 years of the life of the rasulullah sallam he never forgot khadijah and was never jealous more than anyone then khadijah despite the fact that never met her and she died three years before the rasool sasha married me and she said but that's because of how much he kept on mentioning her the rasool will always talk about religion and asha relates in the bukhari because that one's muslim once she saw the permission to enter the house and the hell and this and the voice of hella was similar to the voice of khadijah so when the rasool heard her voice his face changed and he became very soft and ashley became very angry he said my this hadith of how much he missed us and once asked him why do you mention her so much i'm better than her because she was the old she was the second of the soda she was 60 years old also when she was 60 years old so khadijah was the second older she said why do missionaries so much she is an old lady and she has died i'm better than her became so angry with her with aisha that she held back from her words she believed in him she believed in me when everyone belied me and she supported me when everyone let me learn allah has put her love in my heart whenever he will actually slaughter sheep he will make sure that ashay of the sheep goes to the friends of khadija and once one of her friends visited him she was an old lady her name is yuthamma once also he goes are you doing answer she said with him and suspected very last time she was very old lady so she walked out hadith in measure and actually said why say heiser was extremely jealous she was extremely jealous so then why are you talking to her so much she says lady you know where do you know from she said that she's from the old friends of khadija and it is listen and it is part of faith one of the one of the parts of faith is to be faithful to those who uniform before that's what they say that the love of khadijah and the life of the love of the lord was hard and everyone else and what is amusing is that the rasool says have been gifted her love lot of muslim muslims today that just don't want to express the love of the woman don't know why your prophet did he and he expressed in front of ayesha was very jealous that's how close he was with khali and that's why there's hadith the best of women there's lot of hadith sorry took went over the time inshallah and i'll end with this there's lot of said well this is not enough to speak about hadith the companies and he drew four lines and found the muslims and he looked at the companies and he said do you know what these four lines are referring to they said no they said the best of women is maryam and the best of women is khadijah and the best of women is fatima and the best woman is asiya the best phone who is maryam who is madam who the mother of yes and the best of women is his wife and the best of women is fatima he is one of his daughters the one that suffered with him until he died and the best woman is asia who is who who's asia the wife of pharaoh the one she believed in him as said what the rasool meant is that the best of the woman of her time madam was the best of women in her time and asia was the best of women in her time and khadijah was the best of him in her time and thought it was the best of women in her time and that's imagine other books where he says lot of women have rich lot of men have rich perfection but the most perfect of women are full and he mentions the same woman maryam the mother of isa alaihissalam fatima and asia the same woman and they said meaning they are the best of women and they are the first ladies in paradise they are the first ladies paradise because that's famous hadith one day came to him come to you she's going to bring you some food with her said tim yes he goes when she gets here tell her that send salam to her and send salam to her as well and give her the glad tiding of castle made of passable in jannah so she came actually let's explain next time let's explain the hadith of course allah greeting our lord greeting someone this is rarely happened and that's why they say this is one of the virtues that no other woman have been given where allah from above the seven heavens just for one thing to tell the rasool that allah sends islam upon hadith on your line and and then shall be said to her and give my salam to her as well jibril has given salaam to other women but no directly like direct letter if you wanna if you wanna call it direct letter of praise if you wanna compare it to today's standards of of of dealings of communication given the glad tiding of of castle made of kasab the word arabic the word is word in arabic that has more than one meaning one of its meaning is straws like bamboo sticks and one of its meaning is pearls fatima she asked the rasools she said dad said what is the house is the castle of my mother made of straws like bamboo sticks he looked at her and he smiled at her and he said no the castle of your mother is made of pills and want to say the allah give glittering of palace that allah has made for her out of pearl embroidered with jewelry that bothers her in which she will never she will never be tired or exhausted by anything the scores they explain say what did allah give that to hadith they say first because khadija for the 25 years that she lived with the rasools never did she upset him never did she hurt him she was the best wife and that's why the rasool never thought of any other woman he was so much deeply in love with her even after her death for years and and years and they said that's why allah gave her that special and they said allah has given allah in paradise but this was exclusive for that second because she is the one that used to relieve the resource from the trials that he used to face and it's only right that she gets given similar road and the let me speak lot about their wording and and other aspects but our time has has run out so we cannot move further than that the last thing would like i'd like to say is probably the name khadijah today is not really the trendiest of names it's not really the most famous of names and and today arabs are not really liked much and muslims don't really like us so people try to conceal their names but would like to say to my muslim sisters that you should have lot of pride in the name that you carry because the name they carry is the name of one the greatest woman that have lived on the face of the earth in fact she is one of the best foremans of the lost great woman in her character before and after islam great woman in her ethics great woman in her belief and her faithfulness to her husband and to the message of the rasulullah so you should be the one if people tell you you have weird name you say am named after someone that is one of the best women that have lived on the face of the earth shall we conclude with this say can never do this great lady this great lady all right inshallah we'll stop with this and went over the time of allah foreign you