9 PARTY Guest Etiquette Dos and Donts

today's topic is so fun because it's about parties and the things that you can start doing at your next party social event business networking event any kind of social event that will help you look instantly more polished more Chic and so you can focus on the reason why you're there to socialize to network and less so being insecure about am doing this right what should do instead of that don't want that for you want you to go and have an amazing time let's get started if you're trying to look extra polished it's simple thing that we can avoid most people might just go ahead and drink from the bottle but what would advise instead is to get glass pour it into glass and then drink from the glass now whether is water Coke alcoholic beverage whatever it is get glass that has stem because it looks little bit more elevated and it just helps you kind of it it actually causes you to have better posture because you actually have to focus on not spilling drink so put it in glass with stem and walk around the party that way taking twoo many ORD derves so whatever you call them or derves canopies appetizers all they all those words all mean the same thing now the one thing have an Instagram and Tik Tok where head over there because post three times week little tips and tricks on how to become more elegant and socially polished and all types of bits of etiquette fun but if you see if you've seen one of my recent posts it was about this very topic which was not to take too many don't overtake your share now it's not necessarily just about taking your share which is part of it and part of good etiquette but what we want to be careful of is that you not overfilling so let's say somebody comes over with tray of coconut shrimp and they look delicious what should take one cocktail napkin first even if the person offers me the food first then I'll still reach for the the cocktail napkin and maybe the host offers me that that coconut shrimp and then would take one and put it on my hand thank you very much and then as they walk away would eat my my canipe there and we don't want to take one two three or as many as we want no matter how good it looks it can come across greedy it also is floppy causes oil and grease so one at time and we eat one at time the one thing want you to do at the end of that beverage we want to make sure we are not doing this you don't want to get that very last drop by knocking back the glass it's just one of those things that instead you stop when the glass is horizontal so that little bit there will get stuck whatever it might be your orange juice your wine and you stop there not the knocking it back maybe the biggest vott today not saying bye to the host now understand completely how overwhelming it can be especially if you feel like you have social anxiety which many people do you are not alone felt it many times in my life as well and in certain situations when you walk into party there are lot of people maybe you don't know maybe by the end of the party you didn't meet many people at all whatever the case is the only person that is so important that you say bye to is the host or the person that invited you because if you don't and the person looks around after 10 15 minutes and says where's Micah where's Micah and have crept out the door because didn't want to interrupt them or my social anxiety got the best of me it just can come across as rude and especially at house party especially the smaller the event the less people the more likely you should be to say bye to that person that invited you now if it's an event and there's 300 people there of course if you can't find your host that's an exception but be very very careful especially you think about wedding or things like that it's very important to say goodbye now one thing should say is that yes of course you don't have to say bye to every single person you spoke with at the event not that's not in any way you know proper etiquette to do that so don't feel pressured to do that but choose your timing carefully so when you're at an event or party make sure let's say it is let's say it's wedding have they cut the cake have they had their first dance have they given their speeches all of these really important parts of the event should take place before you leave and if all the main parts of the evening have taken place then that is good time to leave so just note there you never want to be super super the first person to leave and if you do for whatever situation then just tell the host ahead of time would love to accept your invitation thank you so much one thing to know unfortunately do have to be home by amount of time maybe for me it's maybe it's relieving my babysitter or whatever it is people understand but if that's the case and you are leaving exceptionally early just tell the host ahead of time so that they know the next thing you want to make sure of is that you are choosing one you choose one so either you are drinking or you're eating you shouldn't be standing at party with plate or napkin of or derves plus your drink like this why because the moment someone comes up to you and says Micah hi it's been so long or hi wanted to introduce myself what do do have my I've got my hands full and can't have to do one of these I'm so sorry would love to shake your hand but can't and it just doesn't come off as super poised or po that way have that free hand and put my canopies in my left hand during that time so can shake meat greet with my right hand if then am right-handed then can go back to that right-handed stance if I'm more comfortable that way too another thing make sure when you have that canipe or derve appetizer whatever we want to call it call it an appetizer for this situation have that cocktail sausage thank you very much they go away and am there left to enjoy my cocktail sausage then lot of people take that napkin and then they crumble it up in their hands and then it's almost like adult comfort blanket we have this this oily cocktail napkin scrumpled up in our hand and we walk around these parties you want to get rid of that crumpled up and think feel like lot of you are probably nodding your head you've been there you've done this or you just look and 30 minutes later you're still holding on to that so that's one thing really easy to do to get rid of to look instantly more polished and then back to your hello I'm here to socialize mode okay another thing to be careful of is how far you fill that glass so let's say there's bartender or somebody doing it for you amazing if you are pouring your own beverage for any reason at party at let's say house party and you've been invited to pour your own drinks then what want you to make sure is that you're not pouring too high so this is called the belly of the glass this is the widest point of the glass you want to make sure whenever it's wine that you pour toward the belly and know higher now if it's orange juice water something like that you can go little bit higher and that's totally fine just to be careful that you're not going all the way up to the top there because then you're walking around the party and you're balancing it and you're doing one of these which you don't want to you want to be able to enjoy have good conversation and not be worrying about how full is my glass and am spilling my glass when I'm talking now talk lot with my hands and that's just part of my personality love talking with hands but you know think it's also important to note that when you have drink in your hand you want to be very careful that you're not talking with your hands because that's one way to very easily Splash and not look super polished at your next event double dipping now know we know this but just have to go over this because at party it is very common thing to have dip or some kind of something that is communal sharable meal the amount of times see people taking that carrot stick putting it in the hummus eating it and then going back for more you're putting the part of the food that was in your mouth back into that dip which is not good etiquette because you're putting your germs into that dip which is horrible for many reasons including hygiene and getting people sick and germs we just don't want to do that so if there is serving utensil we always use it always look for that first little spoon if the host has not provided one then you might be forced to dip up to if you want to do that or not now get this question lot no judgment this judgement free zone but this is funny one so Micah if take that carrot and dip it can turn the carrot the side that have not eaten and then dip it again sadly no we do not double dip in any way once that carrot stick has gone into your mouth we do not put it back in that dip so hope that's helpful this next one is really important talking about yourself and talking about yourself too much this is something that is skill it's something that when people get nervous find they just talk talk talk really fast or about themselves and they don't realize it because they don't know what to talk about so they just talk about themselves or their interests and then that person sitting across from them from them is and you know sometimes look around room and observe interactions love the psychology behind people and and you know their interactions and it's really important to make sure if you are conversation and only one person is sitting there for too long that's sign you need to say and how about you tell me more about your recent trip or tell me more you know whatever you've been talking about say have you ever experienced this whatever it is you've been talking about turn the table and get them involved and that's really important to be aware of how much you're talking and how much you're talking about yourself and making sure it's backwards and forwards conversation so will make video coming up on the best conversation starters and also how to keep conversation going because think this is so important so if this is of Interest let me know and will up it on my list of videos to make for you just let me know in the comments if you find this helpful but have literally list of things that like to talk about at parties and ask people at parties so if that's helpful that's not for few more videos but can can up it if you want overstaying your welcome make sure that you are not the last or in the last 25% of the party to be there so if you are if you look around and it's packed and everybody's having great time and all of sudden you look around and you are one of the last people there or the last quarter of the party to be there it is time to say your goodbyes that's my general rule of thumb so be careful there because sometimes the host it's so hard to host it takes lot of energy and effort and sometimes cleaning if it's at somebody's home so you don't want to overstay your welcome if there's an invitation time that says the party is from 7:00 to 11:00 p.m. make sure you're respectful of that at 10:45 you start you know getting your stuff together even if it's great party just the the person put that 11:00 p.m. stop time for reason so we want to be very respectful of that there you have it my tips to be elegant and more poised at your next party whether it is social event business event or networking party to help you feel really confident now on that note cannot wait to see you next week and any special requests let me know otherwise want to hear are there any here that you are constantly doing and think not anymore or any that we missed I'd love to hear so we can all learn from you as well in the comment section and will reply back and let you know what think as well I'm Meer and thank you so much for joining