The UNTOLD Story of Khadija RA Mother Of Believers Mufti Menk

my brothers and sisters the heroins that we are speaking about one of those who had the highest of ranks was none other than lady the mother of the Believers known Asad so who was she her father was that much we know because it's part of her name but her mother was known as notice the common names from amongst those of the sah and even slightly before we have names like Abdullah names like Zab Zab daughter of Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam two of his wives and so many others we have we have we have may Allah subhanahu waala grant us the ability to name our children with those names that have good meanings and those names that are blessed today sometimes we look for names that sound good but they don't have any meaning you know it just sounds like nice sound wow like that but what does it mean don't worry for as long as it sounds nice my brothers and sisters as Muslims it is our duty to ensure that we have chosen name that has good meaning may Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala help us to do that so Khadijah her father had died in one of the wars so as she grew up it is reported that she was married to man known as and they had some children According to some narrations and one child according to other narrations and no children According to some it's and the child here was called hind According to some narrations and the Man passed away after some time he too died we don't know exactly how and it is reported that after short period of time she was married again to Man known as abua abua or Tamimi and with him they had children halah was the name of his daughter and hind was the name of another son so hind is name that was used at the time for both male as well as female so this is according to some of the narrations but he had passed away as well so she was known as widow she was quite young and she was very wealthy woman from amongst the lofty tribes of quray so she was well respected and at the same time many of the men had wanted to marry her but she was very skeptical because obviously she had been through marriage and another one according to the narrations although some of them say it was only one marriage the others say it was two however what is confirmed is she was wealthy business woman who used to who used to strike deals with some of the men in order to take her wealth and merchandise and go up to the North or down down to the south of the peninsula and come back having engaged in business on her behalf with the condition of having percentage of the share Subhan Allah which means 50% you take it and go and work you come back and you give me back 50% so some of the men had done this for her but she was not so satisfied with the exact caliber of the men and what they were doing and the the accountability and so on so she had heard that there was man known as the most truthful and the most trustworthy and she was very keen on getting this man in order to do some business with so she managed to speak to him wasam Muhammad abdah she had no clue that this man is going to be the prophet of Allah but Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala chose for Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam something unique and it had to happen we will hear in few moments so Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam spoke to her she says look I'd like you to do this business and you take certain percentage and so on and he agreed so she said will send with you one of my servants his name is so went with Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam apparently they went up to aam and they did some business and it was the Baraka the blessings Subhan Allah may Allah grant us blessings in our business as well such that the prophet that was made was more than double than ever before and the accountability was to the tea Subhan Allah he gave back exactly every single coin and every fraction of merchandise that was owed there was an account of it and this impressed her lot number one this man is new to business but look at how much he's come back in profit number two is that everything is accounted for number three is said I've never seen man like this he is so great so Noble his character is exemplary he addresses everyone with utmost respect he's so sharp that he knows business people whom he should not trust and at the same time he he was always well spoken he was person of the greatest of morals and conduct and I've seen him through the Journey day and night how he spoke what he did how he carried himself how he ate I've never seen man like this so when this happened she now thought to herself you know I'm quite an Old Woman by this time she was approximately you know the narrations actually differ as to the exact age of Khadijah some of them say she was 35 some say she was 25 some say she was 28 but the most common narration she was 40 years old we will stick to that inshallah so 40 years old she thought to herself you know what think maybe should see if maybe can get this man convinced to marry me Subhan Allah now young man 25 known as the most honest the most trustworthy quray looked up to Muhammad sallah alai so much prior to him becoming prophet they looked up to him no doubt there was no doubt in quray that he was the most trusted person amongst them all they knew that so Subhan Allah she spoke to friend of hers and she started saying you know what good man I've heard so much about him what do you think you know her name Wasa According to some of the was her name she was very close friend of so she said no he's good man let's see what we can do and so on and you know spoke well about him and at the same time she decided right I'm going to make this match it's going to happen well obviously by the help of Allah subhanahu wa tala so she decided to talk to someone who spoke to someone and so on and so on until the news got to the family of Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam now he was an orphan looked after by the grandfather then looked after by the Uncle so now the main person responsible for him was the uncle Abu Talib Abu Talib had protected him and ab Abu Talib looked after him up to this age of 40 and Subhan Allah with him was the another Uncle known as hamah abdb so Abu Talib ABD MB Hamza ABD mutb the two of them chose to go to those who were the custodians or the Guardians should say of Khadijah she was old but her closest male relative was her her uncle known ASD so they went to him and they spoke you know to to him they pursued this proposal it continued and it ended in nikah in marriage according to what they did at the time marriage would mean that the one family agrees with the other the two were married and Subhan Allah they lived as couple so mammad sallahu alaihi wasallam was married to khad imagine 25 years old marrying someone 40 she was so happy she couldn't believe that he actually accepted and it actually happened Subhan Allah amazing but this was Allah Allah had planned something unique they had six children who were these six children two were boys Abdullah and Alim Alim passed away at the age of two approximately it's reported that he could walk and so on he could just about jump onto an animal and that's when he passed away it was very sad day son of Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam with he passed away and as for Abdullah he was known as or as well but his name was Abdullah he passed away in infancy this was great loss but it was preparing them they had both struggled with loss of their parents as well as loss of relatives and now loss of their own children Subhan Allah adjusted her life completely not one day did she make Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam feel that that I'm wealthier than you and am the one and what say will go and what my family says will go you're an orphan you've got nothing as it is you were just working for me and as it is not single day she adjusted her life she served him she obeyed his instruction and they shared brilliant relationship whereby both of them grew together in such way that they supplemented and complimented one another may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala help us in the same way with our spouse so the child was lost another child was lost they had four daughters the daughters were and these were the four daughters of Muhammad sallahu alaihi wasallam all of them from and what happened they were looked after very well by the mother and the father but the father Subhan Allah he was in seclusion lot he was very very upset with what was happening in quray in terms of burying the daughters alive you know when they had news of daughter they would get upset and they would bury these daughters alive may Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala forgive us may he make us from amongst those who are happy when we are informed of female child that is your door to Paradise mean so he had four daughters but not not once did he feel hey you know what I've got daughters no ways don't even have sons my sons have passed away not once he considered it an honor Subhan so one day as he was in the cave of Subhan allaham came to him with Revelation and we know the beginning of Revelation was with the words read the words of Revelation Subhan Allah so he responded am not reader cannot read and he was told again Subhan Allah and the story you know is recorded in the books of in the books of the history and he was taken by this shivering he ran down from the mountain who did he go to Subhan Allah who did he go to today when man has problem he keeps it hidden from his wife because it will become bigger problem allahar may Allah forgive us but when it came to alhi wasallam he knew that this woman has the qualities of real wife whom if go to her with problem she will help me through it she will stand by my side this was the relationship and she knew him to be the most honest the most trustworthy unique individual the greatest of mankind and the greatest of all the creatures of Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala so she knew the credentials of this individual she was Subhan Allah seeing him witnessing him come shivering and he says You Know cover me cover me and immediately she covered him she embraced him what is it so he mentions the story was in the cave and this is what happened to me with every single detail she said Allah will never ever let you down never it's impossible that the almighty let you down you are man who is honest you are upright you look after the poor you look after the orphans you maintain Family Ties you have great qualities you help the distressed and you reach out to others you have no bad qualities it's impossible that Allah let you down no we will find out what is just happened to you come with me to cousin of mine he knows lot about Revelation and he knows lot about the scriptures let's go to him so she took him to who was cousin of hers who knew lot about the Testaments the previous scriptures so they went to him and Subhan Allah Muhammad sallu alaihi wasallam with his wife what great support what solid powerful pillar she didn't tell him no you were seeing things no you know what it was just nightmare no believe you that was one of her first words believe you there was no question about not believing him because he never ever lied before that Subhan Allah never not at all today we try to convince our wives that we are telling them the most truthful of statements but because we've lied 50 times in the past even the truth is considered okay by the way by the way my brothers and sisters we hope we can learn lesson from this Subhan Allah they will believe you on condition that you are person who doesn't lie May may Allah grant us truthfulness and may He forgive us for wherever we've faulted in the past mean so my brothers and sisters here is with her husband going to her cousin and what happened is when they went to he said after hearing the story wall this is the same angel that came to the previous prophets including Jesus and Moses and the others and in in short time he's going to tell you to convey the message so this was the beginning of Revelation the beginning of prophethood but he was not yet instructed to deliver message that was going to come in the next Revelation Subhan Allah it's reported that he passed away before the day that Muhammad sallallah alaihi wasallam was instructed to convey the message so he says wish that am present the day you are instructed to convey the message that was one of his statements anyway going back to our heroine of today Subhan Allah so she comes back with Muhammad sallahu alhi wasallam being there's no dispute she was the first to accept his message from all human beings the first no one had accepted it before her because she was the first to be approached Subhan Allah so she now accepts the message and this is when Muhammad sah alhi wasallam later on started informing the others and amazingly then you have and and the others who started accepting Islam and then qur starts with all their harm and khad was powerful woman in quray she had business links today if you are to boycott someone it's one of the most powerful ways of destroying them to boycott the most powerful way if don't do business with you you don't do business with me and no one does business with you what happens to your survival well your survival depends on whether or not people do business with you because you need something to survive may Allah subhanahu wa tala grant us an understanding so here you have and she was so unique she used her power in terms of economy economic power to to protect Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam over and above the support as wife that she had so this is why later on Muhammad sallah Ali wasallam says she spent on me when the others held back Subhan Allah do you know that there was time when qur had chosen to surround them and boycott them for almost 3 years what had happened lot of the wealth was they were fed sometimes through what she had may Allah subhanahu wa tala grant us ease may he grant us the ability to spend our wealth in the right path so she used her wealth but not once did she say you're my husband okay how can use my wealth on you today in some cultures if husband has to marry wealthy woman they will insult him they will call him names Subhan Allah look at what happened to Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam the wife spending on him Subhan Allah but not once did she make it seem that this is my virtue over you not even once let's learn lesson from this it's not wrong to marry woman who might be from wealthy family but it's wrong for that family to think that they are now doing him favor may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala help us it is actually two ways we serve in whatever way Allah has blessed us and they will serve in whatever way Allah has blessed them each one is blessed with something different from Allah subhanahu waala but we've all been blessed if only we search for where the blessings are and we appreciate those blessings of Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala so here is she did not hesitate she supported him she protected him she spoke highly of him even after prophethood she constantly said he is the most truthful what he has said is completely true so so much so that her virtue is very very high one day came down with Revelation and do you know what he said he says Muhammad wasallam is about to enter the door with something in her hand so which means she was about to enter the door when she enters pass her the greetings of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and my own greetings Subhan Allah Subhan Allah so amazing she was greeted she asked you mean Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala greeting me and Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam says yes you and on top of that jelam says tell her that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has prepared for her home in Paradise made of pearls so she was one of the women who was promised Paradise already Khadijah one of the first remember she was the first of the the mothers of the Believers the first without dispute in fact so much so that they say who was higher so Muhammad sallu alaihi wasallam was asked later on who do you love the most you remember we mentioned it he said but some of the scholars say that means from amongst those who were alive had already passed away so let's listen to what happened about says you know what once Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam he used to constantly make mention of Khadijah very highly she was very good woman she supported me she did this she did that so one day told him Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam she was an old lady she's passed away Allah's now given you better than her so why do you keep on talking about her he says wall Allah has not replaced me with someone better wo wo what statement what statement so what does that mean so he continues and he says she believed in me when everybody disbelieved Subhan Allah she believed my message when the others disbelieved she spent her wealth when everyone denied me she was there she was the strong pillar of support and she bore All My Children when none other did and this was before Mar so looked at him and he had this passion when he was speaking and she says forgive me will never ever say one word negative about Khadijah after this day and she never did so much so that Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam prior to this incident he used to constantly spend you know whenever they slaughtered an animal or something he used to take little bit of the meat and send it to the Friends of this was after as well in Medina and had already passed away so says before the incident where promised never to talk negative about her used to say messenger sallallah alaihi wasallam it seems like Khadijah is the only woman on Earth you want to send gifts to all her friends Subhan Allah you know sometimes people can say statements without so realizing the impact of it so Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam spoke to her again and reminded her regarding the virtue of may Allah subhanahu waala bless us and bless them all so used to say that was one person we knew that as much as we felt in our hearts when Alam used to speak but that was her status Allah chose her for something he did not choose us for Allah chose her for something and this is why uniquely when Muhammad sallahu alaihi wasallam was married to she was much older than him but he never married anyone else where are those who say that he was womanizer only in Ed in women up to the age of 50s in the 50s 53 approximately and Beyond he only had an old woman with him when in the peak of that youth perhaps if he was womanizer he would have chosen from amongst the rest of the women who all wanted to marry him but no he made choice which was really the best of choices helped by Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala look at this this was the man you know today the peak of man is perhaps from his early 20s maybe slightly earlier the late teens and so on up to the age of about 50 55 you would call it Peak during that Peak well that's if you're lucky Subhan Allah you know the men of today are slightly weaker than the men of that time I'd like to think so if you'd like to call it peak during the peak Subhan Allah he only Hadad and she makes mention of how faithful and loyal he was he did not say one statement to make her sad she used to come with the food and the drink and she served him she says he was the best of husbands ever Subhan Allah Subhan Allah amazing description of Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam by his own wife how many of us our wives would be able to Bear witness similarly allahar may Allah subhanahu Waal help us treat one another in beautiful way mean so this is Muhammad says four of the women with the highest of status the most complete of all women number one Mary the mother of Jesus may peace be upon her number two the daughter of number three Fatima the daughter of Muhammad number four Asia the wife of the Pharaoh may Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala grant us all blessings want to quickly make mention of story of this great woman you know the Battle of bad took place and after that there were some captiv had passed away the 10th year of prophethood that year was known as the year of sadness Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam Muhammad wasallam did not need to make Hijra for as long as Khadijah was alive Subhan Allah it was never discussed khad alive Abu Talib alive no hij no discussion of hij to Medina khad passes away Abu Talib passes away suddenly it's known as the year of loss the year of sadness then speech about moving out of mecah why your main pillars of support gone but that was the plan of Allah he wanted him to go to Madina but look at the power have you ever thought of it in the life ofina was not even discussed because here you had solid support may Allah subhanahu wa tala help us so the Battle of Badr took place and from amongst the captives was ab and when they had to make payment in order to be released he presented necklace when Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam saw the necklace his eyes were filled with tears why was married to his daughter and whose necklace was that while Zab sent it in order to free her husband that necklace belonged to she had given it to her daughter so Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam looks at it with tears in his eyes and asks his companions if you allow if you permit we give this necklace back it belong to khad my wife Subhan Allah Allah and the necklace was given back and this is he went back and later on he came as Muslim because he saw the treatment the fair treatment of all the captives that is story on its own but going back to she was great woman and Subhan Allah she passed away as we said the 10th year of prophethood and it was known as the year of sadness may Allah Grant her Jenna and may Allah grant us lesson the second heroine we have this evening from amongst the companions of Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam one of those who was the most similar to the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam in almost every aspect of upbringing wow you might wonder who the daughter of Abdul mutalib who was Abdul mutalib he was the man who looked after Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam when his mother passed away at the age of six from 6 to 8 SD and Muhammad sahu alaihi wasallam similar age she was one year older than him according to the narrations similar age they were brought up by the same man two years so she lost her father at the age of nine Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam lost his grandfather who was her father when he was eight years old May Allah's peace and blessings be upon them so what happened she was young girl the daughter of Abdul mutb her name was safia and she was very closely connected to Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam because Muhammad mother wasab saf abd's mother was the sister of known as halab did you know that Subhan Allah amazing so these two were related in another way as wellb thereafter saf she was looked after by Abu Talib According to some of the narrations the most correct of the narrations the same man the uncle who looked after Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam also took care of safia ABD MB so this is how they grew up and it is reported that her features also resembled some of what Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam had obviously she was the aunt now she was woman who was married to Al who was that the brother of Abu sufyan har the leader of quray one of the leaders of quray his brother was married to ABD but he died when he died she was married over to man listen to this so who is on one hand Muhammad Ali wasallam is married to and this Aunt sa married to here we are related once again aunt and nephew married to brother sister Subhan Allah look at the relation this is why we say this was so similar to Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam now listen to how she accepted Islam Muhammad sahu alaihi wasallam given given prophethood told get up and warn your family and those who are close to you the Kinsmen so what he did he got the hold of the Hall of and he says you people accept Islam this is who am and so on from amongst them he took some names names of people he says want you to accept Islam accept this message so he says Fatima daughter of Muhammad safia daughter of Abdul mutalib cannot protect you from Allah in any way but you accept this deed Subhan Allah and that is when the of Islam entered her heart she grew up with this man she knew the man she knew everything about him she knew he was honest immediately she chose Islam she said no this nephew of mine is totally honest believe what he's saying so it's reported that her and her son Zu look at that zuw was known as the disciple of Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam they accept Islam at similar time that her brother accepted ISL so who was her brother Subhan Allah look at how closely connected this woman was she was woman who was tested by Allah she was widowed once she married again passed away widowed second time and Subhan Allah she was patient she was very brave she looked after her child on her own her children one of them was Zub young boy she was very strict with him it is reported she used to beat him sometimes but in loving way so his uncle her in-laws so to speak used to interfere lot in the upbringing up to this day you have in-laws interfering in the upbringing of children and women complain you know my in-laws are doing this relax give her chance give them their chance they know what they're doing if you want to guide them talk to them in respectful way but don't start interfering as though these are your own children and you're going to bring them up they might be your grandchildren you have definitely right to guide but you don't have right to interfere may Allah subhanahu wa tala help us so who was the uncle he used to tell her how do you beat this child you better leave him alone and they used to try to spoil the child more she said no ways I'm not going to allow you to spoil this child know that love the child and he loves me but I'm disciplining him because want him to grow up to be brave man and to be man who understands values and this Zu used to appreciate right up to the point of his death he appreciated his mother and how she brought him up even though she was little bit hard was one of those who used to harm Zu after he accepted Islam so what was the point when I'm child you want to spoil me when I'm an adult now you want to harm me allahar so these are sometimes you know those who are distant may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala help us to fulfill the rights of one another so saf ABD she was woman who learned little bit of battle herself you know she knew how to aim she used to train her little child regarding Spears and bows and arrows and so on and she was very knowledgeable person she was also known as poet she has lot of poetry that is recorded and Subhan Allah she was known as poet she accepted Islam as I've made mention of she was one of the first few to accept Islam and also when the Hijra was permitted to Medina she was also one of the first to have made the Hijra may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala help us in every way she left everything behind in and she went out in the hij everything she did not mind she was person who used to say that if have to do something if it's for the sake of Allah don't mind what have to endure in its path will get it done Subhan Allah so whatever was for the sake of Allah she was happy and she did it the Hijra for the sake of Allah with smile she did it why she knew I'm leaving materialistic items behind but this is going to please Allah I'm gone Subhan Allah so it is reported that the Battle of took place and ABD was one of those who witnessed the battle like we said the women used to come across they used to quench The Thirst of those who were fighting and so on and at the same time they helped morally and in various other ways so when she saw the mush coming towards Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam this was right at the end of the battle as zuw was now there with Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam she rushed forth through the Enemy Lines there were few left and Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam saw her coming and he says Zu look at your mother be careful make sure she does not see your uncle your uncle meaning the ham so Zu says my mother Muhammad sallallah alaihi wasallam is telling you to stay away she says why should stay away not in defiance but trying to say I'm I'm strong enough can so Muhammad sallallah Al wasallam looked and saw that she was really you know she was so strong in her intention so he says it's okay let her through she came through and she started asking and the next thing she sees Hamza going towards Hamza and the prophet wasallam had already warned her to say look he has been mutilated don't even go there she says no may she got the permission and when she went she says messenger will bear patience and know Allah will reward me for what have endured through my life know it she had endured so much but she always said no matter what has happened today my brother the one grew up with will endure witnessing what I'm witnessing today and ask Allah to reward me for the sa and the patience that I'm bearing Subhan Allah who had just been lost it was Hamza ABD mutalib her brother she was an orphan child meaning at at certain age the age of nine she lost her father she was young and as she grew up she had memories of her brother and so many different things and now here he is mutilated may Allah subh grant us all protection here she was very patient she made she made great Dua subh Allah to to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala but there is story we will end with inshallah and that is the Battle of when the trench was dug around Madina Muhammad sallahu alaihi wasallam always used to take the women and children and put them into little Fortified Area so during the battle of kandak the men were all busy near where the trench was dug and various other places surrounding Madina and what happened to the women and children they were placed into the fort belonging to Hassan it was the strongest and the best of all the fors that existed in and around Madina so they were all there and the men had gone so safd notices that there is man from amongst the enemies who is lounging around here he's come and he's walking and he's trying to look he doesn't know that we are in here but definitely he must be wanting to see as spy whether there are men here and from the top of the fort she could see this man so she decided you know what we're not going to let the enemy think that we're all alone here because they might come in they might and the enemy here meant those from amongst and so on who had broken the treaty on that day you know and the others they had treaty with the Muslim they broke the treaty because they thought this day the Muslims are not going to win so they wanted to harm the Muslims from inside so one of these men from he was he was trying to harm the Muslim spying on them so she decided to do something what did she do she took pole and she held it she opened the door slightly she waited to see where the man was when he was in proper position where she could swipe at him she hit him with that pole the man dropped she hit him again and again and then she took his body and she threw it down the fort in way that it landed in they saw this dead body or part of it Subhan Allah and they said that means there's some men and some strong people in that so they didn't dare go close to that place again Subhan Allah so it is reported she was the one who fought in the Battle of kandak in different way to protect the women and the children who were in The and this was great one of the great women who were blessed to be amongst the companions of Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam she passed away in the year 20 the time of her age was 73 remember she was just one year older than Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam and she is buried in in may Allah subhanahu wa tala Grant her paradise and every single one of us Allah